Oh, OK. I agree it's not up to her to figure out how to motivate them. I can understand why she'd be asking or upset if they closed, though. As we have seen on GC girls are much more apt to come and ask for help than guys. :)

DSTCHAOS,

You've never been tempted to help out the people you were friends with, if you thought they were stuggling, and asked other people for advice about how to do it?

I mean, let's remember questions on a message board are a pretty low level of involvement, really.

No and especially not when it comes to their organizations.

So if being a sweetheart means that their organization's problems are her own, which is why I asked the question in the first place, then okay. I still can't see why she may be more optimistic and actively seeking change than she communicated that the actual members are.


She's asking what she can do to help. She's not just typing and reading.

Well, yeah, but we don't really know that she's contacting nationals and rallying the local alumni.

If I were a sweetheart, I'd prefer to be the sweetheart of an active, rather than defunct chapter, and I might ask for ideas of how to help them.

Uh...okay......

It just doesn't seem like that big a deal.

No one said that it was a big deal.

Posting on a message board is a low level of involvement, remember?

Glad we're in agreement.

Maybe.

I'll take what I can get. :)

For what it is worth, some sweethearts do take on certain responsibilities when elected chapter sweetheart. These might include, and certainly may not be limited to, helping with the chapter's rush/recruitment/intake. My guess (hope) is that most of these women would know about these responsibilities prior to accepting the honor of chapter sweetheart.

As for the original poster, I do not know if this is a situation where she is simply doing this out of the kindness of her heart (perhaps with an enthusiastic touch of optimism) or part of some "official" responsibility as the chapter's sweetheart.

Basically it's just out of the kindness of my heart and that I know the enthusiam they had before has to be in there somewhere. Just matter of getting out.. I dunno. Just wanted to know if any fraternity guys had any good ideas on how to get them motivated.

The biggest thing is.. these guys are some of my best friends and I hate seeing them so down about it.

Thanks.

Most importantly, I hope the guys give a damn.

It is certainly not over. When I joined my glo there were 10 brothers on a campus where the all male average was about 40 or 50 or so. It takes hard work but it's easily doable. We are up to abotu 25 now with no graduating seniors this year. A problem with a lot of fraternities that go from big to small still expect rushees to knock on their doorstep. It doesn't work that way when you're small. you gotta go out and meet people. It's possible. If they still want to go on, they need ot keep their heads up and try.

Agree with above poster, but we have to remember it works both ways.

Help coming from any direction should be good. If we do not help each other, it sure is not going to be the independents or the school.

This Soro, is asking for help. She needs help.

So, why not help instead of showing her how some Greeks can be?:o