Amy,

I know its tough right now but eventually this feeling will pass in time. Exercise and pampering yourself(Esp. with your sisters) definitely is the best medicine. One other thing you (Allison and Lana also) should remember is that your young LOL Unlike myself. So dont sweat it so much. Just remember your the prize http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Kevin

Thanks Kevin. At times I do find my ex's email kind of funny especially when he wrote that he doesn't deserve to do this to me- how is it exactly hurting him to dump me by email?!LOL He got off easy. I remember one of his brothers telling me that I should've met him (meaning my ex's fraternity brother)first- I wish I had!

Amy,

I am so sorry to hear about the jerkus move he pulled! Keep your head up! I know ALL about bad boyfriends (relationships)! But it maybe hard at first but life goes on and so will you! My philosophy on guys is that they are not worth it if they don't treat you right - and I'm not talking about going out on high class dates, but respectfully as a person. If he doesn't have that respect for you as a person and your feelings to tell you personally, then God may have just sent you a blessing in disguise, because I doubt that he is the one for you. So don't worry about it and focus on yourself. Love will find you when you least expect it. Thats awesome that you want to get closer to God! I was raised very christian (Catholic) and I must say, that it is really nice to have a relationship with God. When I feel like I have the world on my shoulders, I just ask the Lord to be by me and watch over me. Sometimes you have to Let Go and Let God! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif It will always work, HE promises! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I know that whether or not things go my way - it happens for Gods reason. Just let him guide your life and you will be fine. I don't mean to be so preachy...and God knows I'm not a saint! But a relationship with him is so comforting when you need someone there.
We all love you!

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Lana, your welcome. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Just be glad that it happened and you see him for what he is. At least now you know his true colors and you have experience http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Kevin

Remember: If he had to tell you by e-mail then he wasn't man enough to have the courage to tell you personally. He didn't deserve you. In fact, he doesn't deserve anyone. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Amy!! You are such an awesome girl and this guy DOES NOT DESERVE YOU! Anytime you want to talk- you know where to find me!!

Love you!

May

Yeah, unfortunately, this IS what happened to me. The guy says he still loves me but can't deal with the distance anymore. Something I just don't quite understand. If he loves me, why would he rather not see me anymore? Can anyone explain this to me?

That to me sounds like a wimpy excuse. Either that or he's found someone else and wants to pawn the DISTANCE THING off as a reason.
But, I honestly don't know because I've never dated anyone long distance. I know people who have and it is tough. The sacrifice and committment is hard but few do make it through.
But ultimately the only way I can relate to your situation is when I broke up with my previous exboyfriend. I wasn't happy anymore and he wasn't willing to meet me half way on certain things. It's a terribly long story but I loved him dearly and I just knew that he wasn't what I needed and so I broke it off. That was probably the hardest thing I had to do; let the person I loved go. I found it funny that after all the promises he made to me and telling me he wanted to marry me and everything...he could just so easily let me go without a comment; litterally.
But...better things come along and I've learned not to settle.
Good Luck and just know you're the prize...as everyone has pointed out to me.
Hootie

I was in a similar situation for a while, but I ended breaking it off because of distance. A lot of it has to do with uncertainty, not being sure that this is the right relationship. He may really love you, but need opportunity to check out the scene, esp if you guys have been dating a long time. Long distance relationships take a lot of effort, and some people just aren't willing to make that, even if the other person may be amazing. It's all about personal dedication and willingness to make a concerted effort to make it work. Unfortunately, some just don't think it's worth it.

Liv