My problem with her mostly stems from the fact that she's a psycho and just generally not a good person... she's one of those girls who causes drama wherever she goes. A few months after I broke up with my ex, I called him to make amends and try to be friends. He was totally fine with it, and things were great until she called me like 10 times the next day to bitch me out for speaking to him. Oh, and I was at work. Then she proceeded to text me incessantly (even though I stopped talking to my ex, regretfully). I had to change my phone number.

Yeah, shes one of THOSE girls.

Let's just hope she doesn't rush.

*crosses fingers*

With all due respect, I think she has a right to be bitter. Although this situation is just as much the ex-boyfriend's fault, I don't look favorably upon women who sleep around with my, my friends', or my sisters' boyfriends. Unfortunately this happens, even within chapters, but if that info. was made available to me by a sister during recruitment, about a woman going through recruitment, I would take it seriously. The drugs/drinking is icing on the cake.

Hehehe...see, it pays to never burn bridges! If women don't want things like this to come back and haunt them, they should be nicer people.

If I am correct, this must have been a BF/GF H S thing as her Ex BF just joined SN.

If this person is so bad, I think the Chapter would have some smart women in it and will catch on very quickly.

Crying wolf can make you look like a former G F who carrys a grudge.

If you contact said chapter, I would suggest that you only say be careful of this girl and leave it at that.

If it is not your chapter, then so what? If she does get in, she is only one person out of the many who are members.

Exactly. That's hardly sisterhood. Girls are catty and evil. If this girl can do this to you, think about the potential she has for chapter drama.

It seems as if this girl is bad news. Should it come to that point, I would say DEFINITELY say something--you don't want to have to see her at functions or other related events. Furthermore, she won't be a productive or positive member of your sisterhood, judging by her past behavior toward you (and in general). You are completely justified in your thinking.

If she is a risk management issue, then definitely let the chapter know.

I don't think you'd seem bitter to NOT recommend her at all. You know her personally - that's what recommending (or NOT) someone for membership is all about.

Save the chapter from any potential drama / damage to their reputation.

As your fellow sister (:D ) I think if this woman is indeed a risk management issue (which it definitely sounds like she is), the chapter in question should definitely be alerted of this.

The fact that she's also one of those psycho girls (which it definitely sounds like she is) is also not something you would want associated with your sorority. If she obsessively calls every girl who talks to your ex, every person in school will know her as "that girl" who also happens to be an ADPi.

As horrible as it is, 1 person can label an entire chapter because of the actions of one girl (or guy in a fraternity's case), and call me crazy, but I don't think the "psycho druggie" sorority is a very desired label :P

Tom Earp: Creeping everybody out in yet another sorority thread...

mind if I use that in my signature?

Yes! I'm so honored!:p

1) She's not "crying wolf." She has first-hand knowledge of less-than-desirable behavior. Nor is she carrying a grudge. She has made her peace with her ex and moved on.

2) It may not be her chapter, but it is her sisterhood. I see nothing wrong with her, should this lady (for lack of a better term) go through recruitment, giving her sisters a heads up. In these overly litigious days, you cannot be too careful.

3) It would be pretty difficult to just say "be careful of this girl." The members of the other chapter would, in all probability, want to know why. My organization has a procedure for informing other chapters of pnms would could be potential risk management issues; I would not be surprised to find out that ADPi has a similar system.

4) Recruitment can be hectic, and most everyone is on her best behavior. I highly doubt that this girl would tell sorority members during recruitment that her hobbies include harassing her boyfriend's ex-girlfriends and using marijuana on a non-medicinal basis. If she's crazy enough to let that slip, whether or not sdsushelle contacts that chapter becomes a non-issue. You're always better off safe rather than sorry.

I once wrote a letter about someone I knew was going through recruitment. I knew her from when I was teaching at her high school (obviously, I'm about 5 years older than her) and she was not a nice person(and she also plagurized the heck outta a paper). She went to my alma matter, which made my situation a bit different, but I called the recruitment chair of my sorority said who I was, and just talked to her. I said she may have changed from between grad hs in June and going through recruitment in Jan, but this is how she acted in the past.

In the end, after meeting and talking with her, she wasn't invited back to the second round. She went on to become a member of another organization, and shes been a bit wild and overly dramatic, so in the end my chapter is glad I called.

If you feel that strongly about someone, then send an email. If the recruitment chair (or the equivelent) is willing to listen, then speak your truth. But leave out any personal feelings. Just state the facts.