Good luck to TexasDaughter next week! My daughter is having the time of her life, but she is so anxious to find out something. Very upbeat today, so i hope her luck continues....

it is great to hear that your daughter is having such a good time!

Congrats Bamadaughter!

Bama Dad - you can try to tell your daughter to maybe tell every sorority that she is interested in - that she is interested - I mean for her to tell them what they want to hear -

Sororities want to give bid to ladies who want to receive a bid so if she tells everyone- that she likes them, then that should help her - from their side i mean. (did that make sense?)

Great for you to have your own thread.

thanks for the updates.

My daughter called regarding Six Party Day. She said she basically alked to the same girls she had the day before on Philanthropy Day. Do the houses do that to simply go through the motions ? I would think if you are interested in a pnm you would have other girls talk to her. Today was just the weirdest day. She did not like the way it went compared to all the previous days though, so she is definitely worried. A senior at one house knew her entire resume pretty well, and they had a great conversation. She has no idea with whom, if anyone, she will be asked back tomorrow. Bad tidings perhaps? Seems odd to go from 13 for Philanthropy Day to 8 for Six Party Day then feel like you didn't fare as well. Who knows....I'm off to Starbucks for a coffee. I'l look for any comments or thoughts if anyone has any input when I get back.

Don't borrow trouble yet. It could be that's just how it worked out. When will she find out her invitations for the next round?

They find out tomorrow morning at 7:00 AM.

As an aside, here's a silly question: if you can go to up to 8 parties, why do they call it six party day?

This is Bamadaughter's mom with a question--Is it normal for conversation to fade off towards the end of the week? She said that much of the conversation today seemed stilted. Often the same question was asked a few times during the 25 minute conversation. Since this happened 5 out of the 6 parties, I'm assuming (and hoping) that everyone is just getting exhausted. Any thoughts?

It is typical to talk to the same girls over and over again as the rush week progresses. These are girls who like your daughter, feel comfortable with her, etc. Most likely, these are the girls who will pref her.

I met my future big at our house's first rush party and talked to her every single party round, as well as her other friends. Same goes for the other houses I eventually preffed at; they kept me with the same girls. From the other side of rush I can tell you that we get to pick which girls we talk to after the first round.

As for repeat questions, not sure what that is all about... sounds like sloppy rushing if you ask me.

BamaMom and BamaDad - First I think it is wonderful that you are so supportive of your daughter through this crazy process that we call recruitment.

Quite honestly, I think you may have hit the nail on the head about the repeated questions. Recruitment is a very exhausting process on both sides; I think some of that may have come through to your daughter. These times are perfect opportunities for your daughter to steer the conversation by asking a question or making a comment about a particular sorority that will open new opportunites for conversation. For example, she might ask a member what her favorite activities or memories about her sorority are or ask a direct question about a sorority's philanthropy. This will show the member that she is interested in her sorority as well smooth over the rough conversation spots.

Preference rounds, which I assume are quickly approaching, are wonderful. Your daughter will have the opportunity to see firsthand the sisterhood that each sorority shares. For me, it was the moment that answered the question where I would find my Greek home. Just tell her to listen (and speak) with her heart.

Thanks for sharing your daughter's updates with us.:)

Thanks for your comments. I just hope, despite the lapses in conversation, that Bamadaughter gets at least one invite tomorrow. We're keeping our fingers crossed and trying to keep her spirits up. She is quite bummed right now.

Well it could be that she didn't connect with the ladies she met today. But she's had a good recruitment so far and I can't see her blantantly not clicking with every single person she met today! So it could also very well be that everyone is exhausted and stressed out and meeting 40 new people each day. The questions get a bit repetitive and you have to tell everyone your major and hometown 14 times at one party. The sorority women are staying up late to set up, conduct membership selection and make everything perfect for the next round, while the PNMs rehash everything they saw, said and did the day before and go through the agony of having to possibly cut a sorority they like or be cut from one.

Tell her to keep her head up high-- she's had a great week so far and to keep marching ahead! I think that it's possible she may not have connected with some chapters today-- which is normal-- but it is also just as likely that everyone's tired and cranky and ready to welcome their new members.

BamaDad (and BamaMom!), it sounds like a major case of exhaustion to me! Your daughter has probably met close to a thousand people within the past few days - just trying to keep them straight is a real challenge! Plus, she's walked from house to house in scorching heat and nice clothes - while trying to look like a Princess. Once she takes a soothing bath or shower, and pampers herself a little, she'll feel much more like herself. I have complete faith in her - anyone who pulls off so many return invitations on the first round is doing quite well!!

And you are a dear for being there for her!

Good luck to your daughter! Tell her to get a good sleep tonight :) the best is yet to come!