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tunatartare 06-20-2006 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by honeychile
Oh, of course, it's written for another age! But I was just offering to pass along a nugget or two which may be there.

adpiucf - if I had a nickle for every goody basket or cleaning day I've spent as an alumna, I could retire tomorrow! I suppose it's something that's traditional from chapter to chapter.

You're an ADPi. When chapters ask you to volunteer your time or services to help them out, you have some sort of duty or obligation to the sorority to help out. Why would a mother with a full-time job who isn't an ADPi, or maybe even not a member of a sorority at all for that matter, want to spend time cleaning her daughter's sorority house?

PM_Mama00 06-20-2006 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by KLPDaisy
You're an ADPi. When chapters ask you to volunteer your time or services to help them out, you have some sort of duty or obligation to the sorority to help out. Why would a mother with a full-time job who isn't an ADPi, or maybe even not a member of a sorority at all for that matter, want to spend time cleaning her daughter's sorority house?

For someone who has put in there 4 (give or take) years into the sorority as an active, why should there still be an obligation to help as an alumna? You should WANT to help, but not feel obligated to help.

Our chapter had a parents/alumni committee that would plan outings. We usually did parents/actives dinner or things like that. Not exactly a parents club, but it was nice for us all to hang out.

aopirose 06-20-2006 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by KLPDaisy
Why would a mother with a full-time job who isn't an ADPi, or maybe even not a member of a sorority at all for that matter, want to spend time cleaning her daughter's sorority house?

They are not talking about regular maid service. They are talking about a once a year spruce up. Some parents enjoy doing honey-do type projects while gettng to know the people in their children's lives.

AlphaFrog 06-20-2006 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by aopirose
They are not talking about regular maid service. They are talking about a once a year spruce up. Some parents enjoy doing honey-do type projects while gettng to know the people in their children's lives.

And some moms just like finding ways to stay IN their children's lives.;)

aopirose 06-20-2006 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog
And some moms just like finding ways to stay IN their children's lives.;)


That too.

tunatartare 06-20-2006 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog
And some moms just like finding ways to stay IN their children's lives.;)

Pretty much.

HBADPi 06-20-2006 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by KLPDaisy
You're an ADPi. When chapters ask you to volunteer your time or services to help them out, you have some sort of duty or obligation to the sorority to help out. Why would a mother with a full-time job who isn't an ADPi, or maybe even not a member of a sorority at all for that matter, want to spend time cleaning her daughter's sorority house?

I would definitely not be asking parents (or alumnae) to come and clean their daughter's sorority house. Thats why we budget for maids! These days parents are very involved in their children's lives and more often than not are the ones paying for their daughter's dues. All I want to do is provide the parents an outlet so they can see what greek life is about and have the opportunity to help the women in a positive way. As Tom mentioned, a lot of parents are clueless as to what sorority life entails and sometimes dont understand what their money goes to. With a parents club they get to see first hand what the sorority does for their daughters.

Furthermore its a great marketing tool for GLOs. We often tend to market ourselves only in the Greek arena and not think twice about what non-greeks think of us. Getting parents involved could mean great things in the long term - moms talk and Mom A is involved in the parents club and knows Mom B whos daughter is starting school in the fall and thinking of rushing...etc etc

BBelleADPi 06-20-2006 04:10 PM

I feel that there are those parents who were never a member of a Greek organization who would enjoy having that particular avenue of imputting into their children's lives. Also, for those Greek parents whose children are a member of a different fraternity or sorority, it is a way they can be on the same page. I think it would be a definite plus, even if you only had a handful who were truly active. If those few enjoy it, and the chapter benefits from it, you are still more ahead of the game than you were before.

Tom Earp 06-20-2006 04:56 PM

WOW, am I out of touch!

Some Budget for a Maid Service!

How damn lazy can some people be.:eek:

It is beyond My comprehension that You would ask MOMs to come and clean up after each of you.

She and Your Dad got Your butts to College and probably helping to pay for it!

They should be honored and reveared as a special Person who will help promote Your GLO!


Do You Think They Are Scullery Maids?:( :mad:

HBADPi 06-20-2006 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by BBelleADPi
I feel that there are those parents who were never a member of a Greek organization who would enjoy having that particular avenue of imputting into their children's lives. Also, for those Greek parents whose children are a member of a different fraternity or sorority, it is a way they can be on the same page. I think it would be a definite plus, even if you only had a handful who were truly active. If those few enjoy it, and the chapter benefits from it, you are still more ahead of the game than you were before.

I agree completely!

Tom - my girls are responsible for dishes, taking out the trash and cleaning their own rooms. We have a maid that comes in once every 2 weeks to clean the carpets, common areas and bathrooms...just to put in that extra elbow grease collegiates tend not to ;). And once again I would never ask parents or alumnae to clean up after the girls!

Tom Earp 06-20-2006 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by HBADPi
I agree completely!

Tom - my girls are responsible for dishes, taking out the trash and cleaning their own rooms. We have a maid that comes in once every 2 weeks to clean the carpets, common areas and bathrooms...just to put in that extra elbow grease collegiates tend not to ;). And once again I would never ask parents or alumnae to clean up after the girls!


True, but neither should The Girls of The Chapter!:)

Are they handicapped?:(

honeychile 06-20-2006 10:06 PM

Thank you, HBADPi, BBelle, etc for getting what I meant. We had a maid, too, and a decorator - so we were pretty limited as to what we were "allowed" to do.

And I never meant to insinuate that I resented making goody baskets or such - after all, I could always say no.

spotie 06-25-2006 07:19 PM

I believe Tri Delta is the only GLO to have this - please correct me if I'm wrong! - but we have a sorority for our mothers called Psi Psi Psi (Tri Psi) and the requirement for membership is that you must have a daughter initiated into Tri Delta. My chapter's Tri Psi affiliate is quite active and have always known them to go beyond the call of getting a monthly cleaner for the house. They have brought food by during exams, helped with purchasing furniture for the chapter house, catering for events, scholarships, awards - they are a great resource for the collegians and an excellent way to stay in their daughter's lives without being "in" it. It's completely voluntary - not every mother joins. We include them in our Founder's Day festivities and it's just a really great thing the mothers and daughters can share. But it isn't simply a parents' group - it is a true greek letter sorority in the sense that they have their own rituals, badge, colours, flower, charter, even convention! The whole thing. I am surprised there aren't more parents' GLO's - I would LOVE to know if there are!


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