I don't post in recruitment threads very often, but I just wanted to compliment you on your class, level-headedness, and maturity in all of this. I hope that your college experience will still be a great one!

Thanks Daisy. I don't feel very level headed right now...I'm still pretty upset...but thank you for the compliments! I am trying my best to remain classy and mature instead of totally trashing the Greek system.

I talked to my roommate last night after she returned from her bids night party. (It was after 1 a.m. or something but I had a frozen coffee to cheer me up, so that's why I was still up.) Anyway, she told me that she got called about her bid as she was headed to catch the shuttle bus to go to the parking lot for her car. When she asked about my status (I mentioned we were roommates), she told me that the girls said I was very close to getting a bid, but then someone else got one. That made it hurt even more and my roommate told me she was unable to enjoy her party as much as she liked because she felt bad that I wasn't there with her. :(

I'm feeling a little better this morning, but still upset. I guess I need to move on though especially since I am going home this weekend and seeing some friends I haven't seen since before going back to school from winter break. I also get to do one of the things I love more than most things in the world...going to a hockey game. So I'm hoping to be feeling better by the end of the weekend.

Ali * I sent you a PM:)

I'm sorry that you are disappointed. I suggest that you spend this time focused on improving your grades. You can try again next year if you really want it. I know some wonderful women who went through a similar experience before getting a bid.

I also agree with JocelynC's suggestions.

And we wonder why MS is supposed to be CONFIDENTIAL.

Honey, keep your chin up. Join things on campus, do well in school, and get the last laugh.

I am not sure if I am trying again next year. We'll see if I really want it. I am already a second semester sophomore...however...I know both D Phi E and one of the local sororities have pledged juniors without an issue. The one girl I met who's in D Phi E pledged as a junior. But as I said...we'll see if I really want it next semester.

i know you don't want to hear this now, but

"everything happens for a reason"

i know we ALL hate to hear that phrase,
but it proves to be true...
trust me.

let your heart heal, sit back, enjoy life, enjoy your friends,
and in due time you'll see there is something
bigger and better in store for you. ♥

I agree...I was thinking that too when I read that.

I'm sorry recruitment didn't work out as you'd hoped. It's very normal to feel upset, sad, mad and/or disappointed. Take the time to feel these things and do something special for yourself.

It may not seem this way now, and yes, you're on a board composed of mostly Greek members, but Sorority Life, while it can be fun and fulfilling, is just one aspect to the college experience. You can try again if you choose or as someone else said, investigate other Campus Activities. For now--Go home for a visit, spend time with good friends, go shopping, do something fun for yourself.

Work on those grades and bring them up. Also, remember you are special, unique and wonderful. Not getting a sorority bid doesn't make you any less of a person. It's an ego bruise, but one that you can overcome by living your life, talking it out and keeping busy with school and friends.

Good luck and please stick around on Greek Chat!

Depending on the way membership selection works in a particular group, not even all of the iniated members may know.

any chance you might want to found your own sorority?