But did you drop out of rush or not? It sounded like you did before but not so much anymore.

it sounds from your description that they were making fun of the stereotypical sorority girl(think el wood),not so much the other chapters on campus. if you couldn't determine what the true gist of the skit was, i'll bet other pnms couldn't either. the unfortunate thing is that this chapter probably worked really hard preparing for this party, but didn't make sure that the their message was loud and clear.

if you haven't dropped out of recruitment, why don't you keep going? you do not have to sign a bid card. even though you feel your choices are limited, one of the houses might turn out to the perfect fit. but you'll never know if you don't give them a chance.

It's pretty clear what school you are at, and that is a very competitive recruitment where a lot of women go bidless. We don't know why you didn't get as many invites as you would have liked, but did you give your three remaining houses the best chance you could? If you are still in recruitment, I suggest you finish it out, because you don't have many options for re-rushing as a sophomore at your school.

I know how you feel, apsb1000. I was sadden that I've got fewer invites than the other PNMs. At my school, there were seven sororities. I was only invited back to one of them after the first round and was cut after the second round. There were many girls that were invited back as many as 3 or 4 or 5 or even 6 or 7. Like the others have said, be thankful that you have been invited back to some of the parties. There are few girls that get cut from all of the sororities.

Also, you have to think positive. You can't say that you're going to get released from all of the sororites.

With your manners, there's nothing that you can change about you. It's just that you are a sweet person. That's all.

One last thing, if you get rejected from all of them, take this rush as a lesson. You'll face rejection all of your life. I did just that. Rejection makes you a stronger and determined person.

If you posted picture of yourself we might get a more accurate "feel" for you. The way you dress, the way you carry yourself, etc.

Please don't listen to him. He's being an ass.

James, that's really not necessary to say something like this.

That's absolutely right! There were girls here (UNF) on rush day who received bids that weren't their first choice and some of them were just going to leave and not accept the bid, but the Pi Chis talked them into giving the sorority a chance, since you are not automatically initiated. Now those girls LOVE the sororities they're in! So, you really never know unless you try it and give it some time.

I know sometimes when sororities work on their skits... they accidently include inside jokes that are only funny to them. Also after being in the system sometimes things that are perfectly clear to everyone who is already greek, do not make since to PNMs.
I say give the sororities a chance. You never know how your opinions may change after you really get to know the girls.
When I joined a sorority I really didn't know what to think, it really was all greek to me. :D

Pardon my ignorance, but why don't schools reveal legacies only to the chapter in question? I don't know as much about sororities but I'm sure every campus is full of men who were legacies to an org on that campus but decided to affiliate elsewhere or not at all...?

Most schools do reveal legacies to the appropriate chapter. Offhand, I don't know of any that doesn't.

I know my school has a recruitment application, and on it, there's a space to put your legacy affiliations. These are viewable by ALL chapters.

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Just keep this in mind four years from now when you are looking for work-same thing happens.
TTYT-it is even worse......
Good luck with rush-I do hope you find a good house with good ladies to spend your time with.

Heya-

I went through formal rush 2x(as a frosh then as a junior) and COB 1x at my school- Large greek system. During Formal Rush, I got cut very heavily every time...

Sometimes you're gonna get cut very heavily and its not your fault or any of the houses faults. You just gotta chalk it up and realize sometimes in life things happen for a reason you may not understand at the time. There really is no 'right' set of things TO say (even though there are quite a bit of 'wrong' or touchy subjects to avoid)

So, you could either try rushing next year once you find your place at your school, or you might realize maybe greek life may not be what you want to do. In any case, use it as an experience to learn about yourself and who you are...

I eventually did join my house- at the time it didn't feel like the 'right' house for me. But what you learn is no matter what house you join, the best thing you will take away from the experience is a few great new friends and having learned about yourself. In that case, with a positive outcome, it IS the right thing for you to have done...

feel free to message me if you wanna talk!