How on earth did I miss this?! And why oh why does it even have to be discussed?!?!?!?!?


AchtungBaby80, thanks! I feel that, if I know what color and/or type of panties or bra you have on, you're committing a fashion "don't"!!! And let's not forgot what a friend we have in Static Guard!

I'm sure I'm in the minority with this "rule to live by," but I'll share anyway!

An alumnae advisor advised us never to be photographed with a drink in our hand. Even if it's a soft drink. Put down the cup/glass/can before the picture is made.

Totally agree...it's probably because I grew up with a mother who said the same thing. Her reasoning was -- if you don't take pictures with plates of food in your hand, why in the world would you want to take a picture with a cup/glass/can/bottle?

if an older member of your chapter tells you that you have had enough to drink and that they found you a ride home, you should probably listen to them and go! it usually means youre doing something that you think is fine at the moment, but will be embarrased by when you sober up! or it means that someone at the party mentioned to them that you needed to go and you sisters/brothers are being nice by getting you a ride home without making a scene!

No, NutBrnHair, you're certainly not alone. We were told the same thing by our Advisors!

OTW, I never thought of that angle, but it makes sense, too. I know that, unless it's something special that I've just cooked/baked, I've never let my picture be taken with food.

Obviously, my GDI-ex didn't know this "rule", as the best picture we have of the two of us together, he has the perennial brew in his hand! :rolleyes:

My best one is arrive together, leave together. Go as a group and then at the end of the night leave together. If someone needs to leave (or be taken home) early, they should check out with someone so you always know where everyone is. If you just HAVE to go home with Joe Schmo, go to your room, change your clothes and wear something more discrete than your weekend party clothes, that way when you do they walk of shame (not that any sorority girl would :rolleyes:) you look a bit less trashy. If he doesn't want you after you change, well that gives you a good idea.

I think it is also important to listen to your friends/sisters when they tell you 'no'. Stomping off and doing who knows what in XYZ chapter room is not the answer. Some part of you needs the mechanism to, no matter how inebreiated, listen and trust your friends.

I'm all about the no drinks in the picture. Everyone has a back, put your hand behind your back at the very least.

Check with your HQ to see ifyou are allowed to do this. Some insurance policies/companies (not sure of the term there) won't allow the chapter to sponosor these for liability issues. Your HQ (Risk Managemnet Coordinator or whomever) can advise you on this though, and if you are allowed to do it, would help you set it up.

Yes, yes, yes! A sorority sister of mine (who is now a former friend, I might add) used to have this little habit of leaving me at parties...even if I wasn't drunk, I still had no way home 'cause she was my ride! It caused some problems, and I would suggest to anyone that please, for the love of whatever, go home with the people you came with. It's not cool to run off and leave people, even if your boyfriend wants you to. :rolleyes:

And yes, going home to change before you shack is a good idea. Once I went to a guy friend's room after a Halloween party and we decided to watch a movie, which put me to sleep. I woke up the next morning still in my big poufy white "murdered prom queen" costume and that's what I had to walk back to my sorority house in. It was totally embarrassing. To make matters worse, I didn't have my keys with me and I had to ring the doorbell for someone to come let me in...needless to say, I couldn't just use the excuse that I'd been to Wal-Mart or somewhere. :o

Haha, sorry but that made me laugh! You know how Tri-Delts are with TP ;)

Betarulz, your whole list is good advice, but the two comments above are excellent. I agree that even if she's not wearing letters, a sorority member or new member should avoid peeing outside, especially when drunk. (The exception would be on a wilderness adventure / camping trip.) Isn't this something most sorority chapters would have in their by-laws anyway?

I have to believe that, when our charter was granted in 1851, the very thought of a lady going to the bathroom in anything but a privy or a chamber pot was not even considered! Over 154 years later, I'd like to think that it's STILL something considered private!

I do want to say that no girls peed outside while I was a host of a party, mainly because the events I tended to host were somewhat smaller.And it definitely is a bigger problem keeping guys from doing it. But there have definitely been times and parties during my years when girls did some surprising things (like the girl we called bottletop, b/c she managed to go in a bottle while on a bus trip to a riverboat party...we found out b/c she told us.)

PICTURES ARE FOREVER!!!

Not only forever, but a lot of schools have party pics on-line that can be accessed by anyone... even the parents that may be paying those tuition bills! Once on-line, you can never be sure there isn't a picture of you acting a fool out there that could pop up when & where you least expect it.

consider acting out the whole presentation. It seems to be the best way to get your point accross, and also get them invloved in the process while your acting it out. Remember Action Speaks Louder Than Words.

Don't do drugs in public. Not ladylike.