I hope things work out well for you - this is one of the best rush stories we've had in a while! :D

Good-luck to you! :) I hope everything goes well for you & that you get your hearts desire.

A good guy rush thread. I could get used to this! Unfrotunately he didn't give them cute names like the girls do (hint hint for future guy posters)

I think you are well prepared and a great catch for any of these houses. You are perceptive in many ways which will serve you well.

Good luck.

i hope you have a great night tonight! it is great to see rush from the male point of view.

Once more, thank you all soooo much for your comments. They reall mean a lot to me. :)

And I've decided now to dub the houses:

Butterfinger
Peanut Butter Cup
Peppermint Patty
Three Musketeers
Dark Chocolate Twix
M&M
Mentos
Butterscotch Disc

They're named after eight of my favourite candies. :D

To give a brief rundown of the houses thus far:

Butterfinger:
This is the fraternity doesn't have a house. Like I said, great bunch of guys, but to me the house experience is so integral to Greek life that I couldn't see myself being happy there at all.

Peanut Butter Cup
The fraternity with the most beautiful house on the campus, who seemed a little snobbish that had me sorta meh and who had the sorority girls over who only talked to each other.

Peppermint Patty:
Real nice batch of guys here, but too desperate for new members after political issues caused them to lose a bunch of guys.

Three Musketeers:
Party central who didn't pay much attention to the other aspects of Greek life, a huge knock in my preference rankings.

Dark Chocolate Twix:
My #1 choice fraternity and my favourite candy. The guys who have made me feel the most welcome all along and who I've felt the most comfortable with.

M&M:
Have their house away from campus and have a personality type that is pretty much the antithesis to mine.

Mentos:
The guys who were the real big snobs during my visit with them and who didn't sit well with me, even though we got on rather well.

Butterscotch Disc:
Loved the house and got on well with the guys until I went to join their poker game when I was ignored.

So people should be able to recognize the houses from the first two posts with those brief descriptions.

I'd also like to add that I visited every single fraternity tonight except for Butterfinger, because they don't have a house and I don't know that they had anything planned anywhere.

And I fear I may have screwed up with Dark Chocolate Twix.

But the full details of my visits to each house and how I think I erred will have to wait a bit, while I get some apple water and tell myself I'm just being paranoid by thinking I blew it.

So that makes Pepermint Patty the one where you thought they were overly pushy to get guys (due to some old politics)????

Thank you for pointing this out! And yes, that would be them. :) I edited the post to include them.

I have to admit it's nice to see a man's recruitment thread around here. Thanks for sharing.

PS--I love dark chocolate but haven't seen a dark chocolate Trix. Who sells these things?!! </OT>

They're limited edition, unfort. so they're hard to find. Walgreen's and K-Mart may be your best bets.

And share more I shall. :D

Peanut Butter Cup
The fraternity with the most beautiful house on the campus, who seemed a little snobbish that had me sorta meh and who had the sorority girls over who only talked to each other.

Peppermint Patty:
Real nice batch of guys here, but too desperate for new members after political issues caused them to lose a bunch of guys.

Three Musketeers:
Party central who didn't pay much attention to the other aspects of Greek life, a huge knock in my preference rankings.

Dark Chocolate Twix:
My #1 choice fraternity and my favourite candy. The guys who have made me feel the most welcome all along and who I've felt the most comfortable with.

M&M:
Have their house away from campus and have a personality type that is pretty much the antithesis to mine.

Mentos:
The guys who were the real big snobs during my visit with them and who didn't sit well with me, even though we got on rather well.

Butterscotch Disc:
Loved the house and got on well with the guys until I went to join their poker game when I was ignored.

So I started off the night at Dark Chocolate Twix at their pre-pref night event. Food was absolutely fantastic and I talked some to some of the guys and got my tail kicked at the game we played, since it was my first time playing that type of game. :D

Then I found out that the formal version of Pref Night was out the window and that it was basically a free for all. So I said hell with it and decided to take advantage by touring every house except Butterfinger again.

I stayed at Dark Chocolate Twix until they showed the video to their first batch of potential pledges and I got tears in my eyes when I watched it. That's how beautifully it was put together.

En route to my next house, I spent about 15 minutes talking to this Tri-Delta girl I've gotten to know some from one of my classes, comparing the sorority setup with the fraternity setup. She said that while recruitment for the sororities is a lot less informal than it was in the past, it's still quite strict. Also, because my university is only 4% Greek, they tend not to cut girls from all houses, or at least my T-D acquantaince had never heard of such happening there. We came up with the idea of doing a cross-country research project on rushes throughout the nation as well and seeing how different regions, states, campuses, and fraternities/sororities handle rush, how selective they are, etc.

Next up was Butterscotch Disc, where the really cool guide I had spotted me right away and greeted me. Told me to help myself to food, drinks, et. al. A few more guys besides him talked to me this go-round and I played a few games there, too. Overall, I felt a lot better about this house than I did after getting snubbed, and I left wishing I'd put them at #2, rather than the random #3 I originally put.

To Peanut Butter Cup next, where I chatted with some more guys, including a really in-depth convo with this one bloke that got interrupted by this guy from my visitation group who'd mentioned that he was pissy about how not too many people from the fraternities seemed to talk to him, especially in Dark Chocolate Twix. That kind of irritated me that he did that, but since I knew he was feeling depressed about feeling shut out, I excused myself to go get some food, hung out a little while more, and then left. Still the most gorgeous house, but falling further down my list in spite of it. Also, one of the girlfriends of the guys I overheard complaining about how lame the whole thing was and how she couldn't wait to leave. This, I might remind, is also the same fraternity where the sorority girls ignored the guys. So yeah, by this point in the evening, Peanut Butter Cup and Butterscotch Disc had flipflopped places in my head, because of the sense of getting along with the brothers of the house.

From there, it was on to Mentos, which had a rocking party going on. Unfortunately, remember what I said about them thinking they were all that and a bag of chips? Well, that still apparently applied here because I was totally disregarded. After about twenty minutes, I got disgusted and started walking off, only to be caught by my guide from before. He talked to me some, but I got the feeling he wasn't all that interested or genuine. Bye-bye Mentos. You are *not* my Freshmaker. :D

Onward to Three Musketeers, which confirmed their Animal House stereotype in every way possible. The odd thing is, I actually got to really like these guys during this visit, especially after... well, I'm going to have to wait to tell you this story until after I finalize my bid. :D They invited me to go along with them partying, but I ended up declining. Still, I have to say these guys shot up from the back of the pack to #4. Excellent leap forward.

Peppermint Patty came next. My impression of these guys as a great group of fellows was further enhanced as I chatted with them more earnestly than I did last time, but it was still too depressing a place to be around. So, nope, this isn't the place for me.

Last stop was M & M, which, even though it was only about 9:45, was closed for the evening. This further cemented my feeling that they were sooo not right for me, as I'm a night owl, and there were already sharp personality differences to consider.

From there, it was back to Dark Chocolate Twix. There, too, I got an invitation to go to a party with them. This time, I accepted and hung out for an hour, but I'm afraid I wasn't much social in the least, and I left after about an hour without saying anything to anyone about leaving. As I walked back to my dorm, I couldn't but help but wonder if I'd screwed up by being withdrawn and leaving so silently.

But yeah, for now, here's the rankings in my head as of Bid Day Morning:

1. Dark Chocolate Twix
2. Butterscotch Disc
3. 3 Musketeers (These guys reminded me of my best friend back home who I haven't seen in a few years, so they sneak on up to 3rd)
4. Peanut Butter Cup

The other four are more or less dropped from consideration, due to reasons of just not being the right fit for me.

Time to hit the showers and get dressed. More to come later. :)

is this thread forreal? I swear, this has to be Rudey or KSig RC messing around with you all.

If this thread IS forreal, well. Good luck buddy. I hope you get into Peppermint patty or whichever it is you want to get into.


PS- please don't tell the fraternities you named them after candy bars.

Jestor, it is extreemly interesting to read the Rush/Recruitment thread from a Male for a Change.:)

While You have made some very good insights on Who, What, and Why, Let Me caution You.

A Nice House is only a Building, not what The Membership is all about. The same goes for a No House GLO.

Not knowing YOur School and the Number of GLOs on Campus (?) Guessing that it is a Non Big Un. then two things should be important.

The National aspect and what the Members offer.

While I love the great work You placed into Your investigation, there are many things that need to be looked at for now and the future.

It is a shame that You dont go to My School and Chapter where We are looking for Men who can help us rebuild along with anew House (Building).

Age on Major Campi is a problem and I dont think it should be, but when it is full, they look for Long Termers.:(

A better fit sometimes for Chapters is to find someone with a little more head on their Shoulders, not in their pants!:(

Woo Hoo, sounds like today should be a good day for you.

I'm no expert but I wouldn't worry too much about being a little anti-social last night. You came back to their house after goign to most of teh others so that should say a lot. Plus, it's probably been a long week and I'm sure everyone is more tired than normal.

Your post last night made it sound like you did something REALLY stupid............

Hahaha the candy bars thing only came about because I happened to have a Dark Chocolate Twix in my hand at the time that I was munching on. :)

So I woke up today, showered, and walked to the meadow area where they were handing out bids, my heart pounding and my head feeling a little light.

Would I get a bid or would I not?

I go to the table, where the guy is like, "You're Jestor Jestor right?"

"Yeah."

"I just saw you in here. Let me take a look."

He flips through the cards and I'm getting more and more tense by the moment.

Then he hands me the card and says something that I don't really hear because I'm too busy staring at it.

....

...

....

....

I got two bids!

Dark Chocolate Twix and Three Musketeers both extended me an offer!!!!!!

I quickly thanked the guys at the table who told me that if I was going to accept a bid to just go to the house in question.

Then I dashed away from the table and just stood under a tree for a while, wiping away tears of joy that were in my eyes. I've wanted to be Greek ever since high school and I was afraid by this time that I was too old to be accepted and I thought I'd blown it with Dark Chocolate Twix. Being Greek seemed like just a pipe dream and now, not one but *two* fraternities wanted me as their brother.

This probably sounds silly but that was a huge deal to me, to know that more than one fraternity wanted me and that I had a decision to make. It made me feel like I was somebody really special and that I was wanted.

So after I calmed down from my teary-eyed outburst of happiness, I looked at the card again. While you might have expected that I would have dashed off to Dark Chocolate Twix right away, I wanted to take some time to reflect on it. After all, 3 Musketeers had grown a lot on me over the week and I gave some very serious consideration to their bid.

But in the end, my footsteps carried me to the house of Dark Chocolate Twix and I became one of the newest members of....

Sigma Chi!

Congrats, I absolutely ADORE the Sigma Chi chapter here @ Kent (Zeta Lambda). Derby Days is my fave time of year! :)