It IS a confusing story....and several sentences seem to contradict themselves or confuse things, so I'll leave it at this:

Sounds like you won't be able to get an answer that satisfies you here. None of us were experiencing this when you were...we don't know exactly what was said, what reasons were given what requirements were or were not met. And there's no need to tell us here, because we have no way of verifiying them in case you somehow misunderstood along the way.

You have to make the decision yourself. If you want to go through recruitment again, do it. That will answer all of your questions. There's no guarantee that it will be comfortable for you...it could be heartbreaking...it might not be.

It's your decision. There's no way we can predict what will happen.

PsychTau

That's fine, if you didn't intend it then it would probably be best to stop the thread. No worries.

Thanks so much for clearing it up for me! Makes so much more sense now. :)

Wow, some schools are really prudish . . . if we punished girls for drinking at formal at my school and a lot of others there wouldn't be many sorority girls. That especially applies to underage ones . . .

Dude, I think things have changed since you were in school. ;)

Ok so did the original poster edit out the part about being asked to leave b/c she drank at formal? I don't know where it came from since it's not in any of her posts and I'm really confused.

My advice is, if you're school is small enough that people would remember you and know the depledging situation, don't rerush. A school like mine where there are over 1000 PNM's every year, it's a bit different. However there is still the very real possibilty of one girl remembering you from the year before, though it's not as likely. I dunno, I guess in the end it's up to you to decide, but with the situation you've described I personally would say don't re-rush, but that is just MY opinion. Good luck.

Yep.........

Well if all he underage girls go to formal sober . . I'd be surprised. You used to have to follow the 11th commandment, "Thou Shalt not Get Caught." :p

I think it would be a little naive to believe that underage girls are not drinking before or during formal (hidden flasks anyone?) regardless of the laws.

Or is it one of those good chapter things? The good, ladylike chapters don't do that but the bad chapters non-ladylike ones do?

Did anyone forget this post she made?:confused: Last on Page 1 and has continued since.:(

I think the discussion has moved away from her specifically to a more general discussion...I don't see the problem with it.

Pre-parties were STRICTLY FORBIDDEN when I was an active..... People did it anyway. They just were more careful about it. And if anyone knows how to sneak alcohol into an event, it would be the fraternity guys at A&M. :p

So, of course people SHOULDN'T drink underage, and people SHOULD follow the rules. But people will always sneak around and will always try to get away with things.

ETA: I'm not condoning actions like these, I'm just saying that they happen. :)

And, when they happen, and when the people are caught, they shouldn't be surprised that there are consequences for not following fraternity/sorority policy and the law.

Oh, I agree.