To me at least, theres something a little chivalrous about the traditional way, the guy asking. it's along the same line as a guy holding open a door for a lady, or standing when she leaves the table. Of course ya don't necessarily have to do it, but ya just do. I'd probably feel like an idiot for not asking first if my girl were to ask me the question.

If a woman has to ask then maybe he's not the one! I just believe that the man should stand up, take charge of the special moment, and profess his love the traditional way. I guess that I'm just an old romantic woman at heart.

Serioussigma22

i agree
 

i agree with iceburg too.... i dont want to pick out my own ring, i'd rather be surprised (by the ring and the proposal).

the thought of going ring shopping takes away all the fun for me and the whole concept of "poppiing the question" is kinda null and void if i pick it out and just wait for it to arrive so he can ask me?!

**i know some women dont want to be stuck with an ugly ring so thats why they want to pick it out, but material things dont really mean much to me (especially when it comes to things like this)**

also i read (from a man's point of view) that they want a woman who is independant, but if a man cant ever be THE man (provide for his girl, do manly things, i guess) then he feels like she doesnt need him.... and why should he be there?

its ok to leave some things to tradition!

Well stated Soror Prettypoodle,

Men, especially black men, don't need anymore black women doing everything for them when it comes to asking the woman he loves such an important life changing question. Brothers I have too much respect for you to just let you go out like that! Sistas we need to be more patient and wait for that special moment to happen. Now don't get me wrong we shouldn't have to wait for 5 or 10 years to hear those special words from our significant others. If he's waiting until eternity sorors and friends it's time to move on!

That's just my 22 cents!

Serioussigma22;)

I'm a little more conventional than people might think. My husband sort of accidentally proposed to me in conversation, but when he started sputtering (not that he wanted to cover it up, he just wanted to ask me in person), I told him that I was leaning the same way.

While I personally didn't ask my husband to marry me, I think I could have. If you know your chosen partner is the one for you, why wait? We ask for raises, we ask for respect... what's so different about asking someone to marry you?

So many of us have been waiting to exhale for so long, we're purple in the face and on the floor in convulsions :D

Personally, when it comes to mating and relating, I think sisters need to take more control over their romantic destinies.

Lil Sunshine,

I'm feelin' what your saying!

Serioussigma22!

So... if a guy asks you to marry him does this mean you're automatically obligated to accept? If not, then why would it be any different if a woman asks a man to marry her?

Nope..I wouldn't propose. When I think of a man proposing, it's romantic. When I think of a woman proposing, I think desperado. And, when a woman proposes, does she give him a ring? Proposing to a man is like wearing white after Labor Day...People do it but it really shouldn't be done.

And, on another note, how many times do you hear people saying that they are engaged and 6 months later...There's still NO ring!!! :confused:

ROFL! :D

You must be bored since you're bumping up all these old topics lately...aren't you supposed to be reading all the applications we've received for our University of Ghetto Pimpology?

:p