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Re: Re: Re: Re: Questions

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Originally posted by KSigkid
Every time you use a smiley, someone loses brain cells. Think of the brain cells!

I'm the new Tom Earp! :D :(

yikes----can we handle another one?

just when I thought I'd figured out the first one.....

I agree with the other Kappa Sigs and say its a cop out. A convenient line.

Although there may be a different root cause than a simple "Someone doesn't like someone enough."

My read on most of the situations I have seen is that its a matter of safety. Risk aversion. FEAR.

If you know they will sever the friendship if you don't date them, you might date them because you fear the pain of losing them.

If you can continue the relationship, you might not date them because you are afraid it might not work. The "half of loaf being better than none" theory which is another form of fear.

If someone is that kind of person, I am not sure how strong they are internally. Its a way of approaching life by minimizing the perception of risk.

Its like trying to become friends with people you are attracted to first and then hope it develops into more.

ITs playing it safe.

Because ultimately, no matter how well you know the other person, you don't know what a relationship will be like between you.

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Originally posted by sugar and spice
1) Is "I don't want to ruin the friendship" ever a valid reason for not dating someone, or is it just a line we feed ourselves when we aren't actually THAT attracted to someone?

In my case, It's a valid reason. I have dated a friend and it did ruin our friendship. So now I am extremely worried about that happening again if I ever fall for a friend.

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Questions

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Originally posted by sugar and spice
I'm the new Tom Earp! :D :(

Look, if you keep it up with these smiley things you will leave me with no other course of action except to wish that the fleas of 1000 camels infest your crotch area. Sounds colorful doesn't it?

As for the actual thread, who cares! Smash and don't think twice because thinking only confuses things.

I'm going to have to agree with it being a cop-out as far as I'm concerned, but I'm sure there are actually people who do feel that way. My best friend is a guy, and we've been friends for 8 years. I had a huge crush on him when I met him and every once in a while I think how simple it would be for us to date. As much as I wouldn't want to ruin things, if I really felt like there was something there, I would date him in a heartbeat.