Re: going on dates to just go on a date
 

I think a first date truly makes you KNOW if you have interest in the person, so it's ok to go on a date to find out.

I do it. You never know. Unless, of course, I really can't stand the person...even then, a free meal just isn't worth it.

I'd rather stay home and do my laundry! :)

I took the question to mean that you already know that the person doesn't interest you. First dates are definitely a "get to know you" to see if there is interest situation. But, if, after the first date, you know you aren't interested (ie. they revealed a deal breaker), and you continue to go out with them, then I just don't get it.

Me too.

Which is why some of these responses baffle me.

Cuz when men say they take a female out in hopes of sex.

SOME women take up arms and wanna gather up the 'posse'.

Eesh. I hadn't read it like that. In that case, you're right.

There's a difference between deal-breakers and just not knowing for sure what's going on, though. For instance, for me, having kids is a deal-breaker. So is being very quiet and shy.

If you have kids, I won't go on a 2nd date with you. (Though I will reccomend you for other positions in the field, if you're a sweet guy.) But I'll sometimes go on a 2nd date with a quiet guy -- figuring he might have had an off night, been cowed by my obvious beauty and charms, etc.

They can talk all they want about how you're going in with intentions, but once you booze them up and play the Seabisquit soundtrack they'll put out.

-Rudey

I gotta get up on that soundtrack.

Titanic has always worked for me in the past.

a little update....

well, i didn't end up going out with the guy who i had no interest in. basically he didn't call when he said he would so i made other plans. i did end up seeing him on sat night...and he asked me to sleep with him. stupid boy! if you don't call when you say you will...you don't get to ask the girl to sleep with you.

just thought inquiring minds would want to know.

Did he provide you with booze, low lighting, and perhaps the Gladiator soundtrack before he asked for sex?

-Rudey

every one of you has gone out with some one for free food

I think AKA_Monet has the right of this one.

A good movie to think about is "50 First Dates" with Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. The lesson is that on any given day you might succeed or strike out with someone.

You might meet a person on Tuesday and hit it off but if you had met that person on Monday you would have struck out. The timing could be off. One of you could feel bad. Or you just might be out of synch.

Dating someone you don't already have a lot of interest in is a way to see if you hit it off over a few dates. This is assuming you find them basically attractive. Or at least nice to look at.

I also think that AKA_monet is right on with her "Continuable Dateable Education" idea.

*raises hand* I'm one of them!