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I think both S&S and I were speaking of the people who DO come here directly after having a bad recruitment, are sad, and asking questions about what to do now, why didn't I get a bid, how do I COB etc. Not just random girls who post BEFORE rush looking for info. I know we get that type of girl as well.
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OK, this I understand :)
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i am not sure that there really is a solution. i am sure there are several members who would say it took two rounds of recruitment before they were given a bid (think about blazercheer). maybe we should start encouraging pnms to ask their friends honestly if they have a chance to get a bid. when i was in school, a girl went through rush, got cut; cobed twice, got cut; rushed again, got cut...then asked if she should try cob again. she was only focused on one house and finally some people who were her friends and also in the house told her that it wasn't a good idea because she wouldn't get a bid. they didn't say, oh well at our last selection session we didn't think that your gpa was high enough, etc., just that as her friends, they didn't think she should try again. she moved on and got involved in other activities.
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I have been thinking about this thread. Then I go into my counseling classes and we talk about the messed up things parents do to their children because they think it is in the child's best interest. Runs sort of parallel don't you think? ;)
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I can see James' point, which was pretty well-made, I have to say. (I'm still giggling.) But I can also see the other side...if I hadn't gotten a bid, I would have been crushed, and I would have wanted people telling me, "Oh, you seem so nice, it's their loss" and yada yada, even though I probably would know that it was all fluff.
However, yeah, we really shouldn't encourage people that we know deep down in our hearts--and come on, people, be honest, we've run across them--don't stand a good chance. If you don't feel comfortable telling them that maybe they should look at other activities besides Greek life, just don't say anything. |
What is hard is that we have no way of knowing if they have a really good chance or not.
Some girls have an awful reputation and are not going to admit that.(Hi I have awsome grades, am very cute, and slept with the entire baseball team) Or we all know how appearances matter sometimes. You have read Dear Abby when a girl writes and says she has a great personality is really cute and you are thinking "sure honey" What if the girl is a psychotic stalker type? We could never know this. But we might get the idea after they keep posting and posting here... |
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