| Ideal08 |
01-09-2001 02:13 PM |
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Originally posted by Bobby Earl:
I have a question pertaining to this topic?
Do you think that the videos and other stereotypes of black women have an impact on how brothers see and interact with black women?
A lot of the videos and stereotypes emphasize on the physical attributes which might indirectly cause men to only see women for sex. This is what I meant about people getting hurt because one party is focused on longevity, understanding, and getting to know someone while the other is focused on sex. I know it takes more than a video to think this way, but the videos don't help.
I also don't like how the beautiful black women has always been visualized with "light skin", long hair, coke bottle shape, and brown or hazel eyes. By no means am I prejudice against light skinned ladies, but I just feel that there are many darker and less physically inclined sisters who have a lot to offer.
Now that I think ahout it, maybe this behavior is learned at a young age or influenced by the environment in which some men grow up under. I am from Louisiana and I know that a lot of brothers from Southern Louisiana (Lafayette, New Orleans, Baton Rouge, Hammond, etc..) have this mentality whether they choose to admit it or not.
Does anyone have some more input?
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B.E. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif, in response to your question, I'm not sure how this will affect Black men's interaction with Black women. I do agree, though, that the videos don't help. I think that it's a matter of maturity. At least I would hope that by a certain age, men know what they want in a woman and in a relationship. I think the videos, like the Gentleman Clubs, simply create a fantasy. At a young age, men might chase around these type of women, but as they mature, they realize they want more than just T&A.
I do get a little tired of Black women's beauty being showcased as only light skinned, long hair, and perfect figure. I'm glad that women like Kelly Price, Queen Latifah, and Jill Scott are representing for us big girls! Unfortunately, as far as skin complexion, a lot of people still think that the darker you are the more unnattractive you are. I guess it's all about preferences. I love my chocolate skin, and wouldn't trade it for all the attention in the world. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
Now, as far as men looking to women solely for sex, I think that's a given, anyway, regardless of the videos. But then again, I am cynical, biased, and bitter (I can admit that now http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif).
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