You know, it just might work.

Hmm. That is a difficult question. I don't know what I'd do. I mean, I definitely want to have a family of my own someday, like the one I grew up in (but better!). Anyway it turns out I will do whatever makes me happy and keeps me fulfilled.

I would throw myself into my work and make sure that Rudith has to keep taking tests.

I never really wanted to get married. I just want to be the star of a party and get lots of presents.

Maybe you should have a bat mitzvah?

Maybe you can marry yourself.

Thank you for your honesty.I have a friend who is getting married,who isn't in love with the man in the least but is allowing him and his parents to help pay for their hugely elaborate wedding.


I'm like you though Tracy,I have never had any desire to be married ever.As I get older,it sounds even less appealing.Quite frankly,looking at my married friends,I'm not sure how many of them are all that happy.

But that's what a wedding is all about, for the bride! The groom is just incidental.

:p

im in the not when but if it happens boat. if it happens, it happens, but in the mean time, i've got to get through college and grad school, and those are bigger concerns to me than marriage.

i'm planning on keeping my last name (i have awsome initials, in my own opinion), so i can still use my monograms and whatnot.

ps - valkyrie - you're not odd ;) i grew up in the suburbs (of chicago) in a very republican community, in the "traditional" family, and i feel the same way

I was joking about the presents. I guess that I should have added this ;) little smilie or an lol.

I am not married. I don't know if marriage is in my future or not, and I'm not going to stop living my life on my terms just in case. My advice is if you want a monogram or a tattoo, get it. (Tattoos aren't my taste, but that's a different story.) I have a few other thoughts on the subject, but I'll add them later.

It's a bit silly to plan things revolving around something that might or might not happen. It's one thing if you're engaged or in a serious relationship that looks like it's headed that way, to be thinking, say, "maybe I won't buy that monogrammed item yet because I'll be getting married and changing my name soon", but if your potential future spouse isn't even on the horizon, why limit yourself because you "might" get married someday?

Sorry.Didn't know you were kidding.:)

Sadly,I do know there are women who do get married for exactly that reason though.

What if the sky falls? Who knows, maybe some of these people who are talking about getting married now won't want to when they finally get older.

No problem. :)

AND I went to Iowa too (I'm assuming you do since you're a Hawkeye). ;)