Re: Re: I don't know if I want my son to pledge.
 

lol dont kid yourself

My son will be a senior in high school this fall and as a greek that has had a wonderful experience for the last *cough*cough* years I lean toward encouraging him to go through rush in the fall of 2005. However, as much as I trust his judgement, I still worry about him getting involved in a situation that he won't be able to get himself out of ...

I have been concerned about the hazing problem, especially for fraternities, for the past several years. I will probably take the course of encouraging him to research the groups whereever he ends up chosing to go and trying to advise him on what to look for and what to stay away from.

BTW .. if anyone is interested .. he is currently planning on attending the University of Arizona, although this is subject to change...

And I would welcome any hints, tips, or help that anyone wants to share with him.

So we might have a fall 2005 fraternity rush story to share.

I highly suggest that your son, re-colonize the Beta chapter there. We have a big chapter at UA in Tuscon, as well as a big alumni base down there. If interested, PM me...

That's the best advice possible. As another parent of a (soon-to-be) 7 year-old boy, I couldn't have said it better. The task now is to teach him how to make good decisions. That includes letting him screw-up so that he can learn from his mistakes.

It also includes teaching him to be comfortable with (and proud of) who he is. Submitting to hazing to belong is just another step in the peer pressure chain that you will soon see if you haven't already. Helping a child to have enough self-confidence and self-assurance to withstand that peer pressure is perhaps one of the greatest tasks for any parent.

Good luck (to all of us)!

There are a lot of other decisions that are going to come about before you'll ever have to worry about your son joining a fraternity. Maybe he'll want to go to a school without Greeks, maybe he won't even want to go Greek, maybe he won't want to go to a four-year (HA!) college and opt for trade school, maybe we won't be able to afford college! My advice is take one step at a time...get him through elementary school first.

No offense, but that's not a decision for you to make.

Especially not 11 years in advance!

I agree with lifesaver. The best thing you could do for your son (and the Greek system!) is teach him to make good decisions--to be a person of character and and man with the courage to support his convictions.

When he's ready for school and if he chooses to go Greek, help HIM research the chapters on campus. You know what questions to ask--encourage him to ask them.

If you did your job as a parent, it won't matter what the chapter wants him to do will, he'll make the right decisions.

Worrying about your 7 year-old being hazed in college is a lot different from setting up a college savings plan.

There's always the huge possibility that he may not want to go Greek, or will go to a school that doesn't have a Greek system.

I'm just really interested in hearing about your opinions on Sig Nu's at A&M and UT.

Seeing as how i am an alum of the A&M chapter and have had pretty close working knowledge of the UT chapter for the past couple years, i'd like to hear it.

PM me, if you have the nuts to back up your statement.

Kitso
KS 361

I don't know about his views on A&M, but he's probably referring to the incident at UT in 1990 that got them closed (he said he was a Greek at UT around that time, so I'm sure that's the time frame he's referring to).

Has SN returned to UT? I thought they were closed for.e.ver. Good for them-I hope they have been very successful b/c they had alot of history.

Sigma Nu's closed in 1990 at UT for hazing lost their house on 26th street as well. 130 man chapter gone ,one pledge was seriously injured by a hammer if I remeber correctly.Last time I was in Austin Kappa Sig's were in the old SN house.

folks take things way too much to heart on this board.

My nephew is 3 years old. Gosh, I can tell he's going to be a hazer already. You should see the way he bosses his older sister around!

Somebody has got to do it, right? j/k

First i must apologize for thinking this is hilarious but i do