Yeah, that happened to me. Ok, it wasn't a $500 dress, but it did cost me somewhere between 75-100, and my date shows up in kakki cargo pants and a polo shirt. Then gives the exuse that his suit was ripped- ok, it might have been; but he also had 30 brothers, someone HAD to be his size.

But ya know what, it wasn't the end of the world. I left him at the table, had a few drinks, and forget he even exsisted. I honestly think I had a blast with my sisters, while he sat at the table with his brothers and bitched and moaned.

I agree with the rest about you overreacting. Most people can't afford tuxes, and $500 dollar dresses. Hell, my prom dress didn't cost 500.

I'm so stressed about formal I don't have a date. I had one date didn't work out, the second one his fraternity has some kind of brotherhood thing so he would show up to formal really late.

I don't know what to do? Formal is next friday. I want to ask this one guy but he has a girlfriend so I'm not sure if I should ask him or not. I don't want to date the guy I just want to know if he could just go as one friend going to formal with another formal.

uuuuuuuuuuuggggggggggggghhhhh:eek: :( :confused:

So my chapter just has our formal last weekend. Honestly if tuxes were manditory no one would go. Most of the guys wore any suit that they owned. My bf and I were the only couple that actually matched. A few guys wore a sports jacket and pants. No one really cared. I mean were are typical poor college students! It shouldn't be about what everyone is wearing! It should be about having a great time with your sisters.

I've been planning our formal and we have run into this problem in the past with brothers being strapped for cash. The simple solution was for them to wear a black suit and rent a vest and tuxedo shirt; to be honest I couldn’t even tell till one of them told me. The point of a tuxedo is for the men to blend together so the women have their moment in the spotlight. As long as everyone sticks to black suits you should be fine. However, that being said I still think a tux is the appropriate attire for a formal event.

*shrug* the boys have always worn suits and ties to the formals I've been to....and the jackets come off after about 10 minutes when at the dance...I've always thought they looked nice. I dont recall anyone wearing a tux, although I wouldnt complain! ;)

For my service formal my boyfriend was the ONLY guy who wore a tuxedo- and it was his choice! Many of us weren't sure what to wear because we heard the word "formal" and then the person planning it said "coctail dresses" so I bought something in between. Anyway, no matter what the guys wore, all of my sisters shined because we all looked so great and nothing shines more than a Kappa Phi! :D

Well, here's my opinion on the tux/suit thing.

My SAI chapter and our local Phi Mu Alpha chapter have a joint spring formal. The neat thing for the Sinfonians is, because they're in ensembles like Wind Ensemble or Concert Choir where guys HAVE to buy a tux for concerts, they already have their formal wear! :) BUT...for me and my sisters dates, we left it up to them. In fact I TOLD my date not to rent/buy a tux unless he just wanted to, because that's a lot of money to shell out. It'd be different if say he asked ME to HIS formal...but I asked him to mine, so I just wouldn't have felt right telling him to get a tux. He wore a very nice suit, and so did many other girls' dates. I didn't feel it brought down the classiness of it at all. We all had a blast.

I think the most important part of a formal is that all the sisters can simply BE there, and their dates should wear the best THEY have or can afford. I think a nice suit is perfectly acceptable. :)