Sorry guys; I just wanted to clear up something. I didn't say that ll the information is redundant because, you can never learn everything there is to know about AKA. Even after one gains membership, there is so much to learn. The history is ongoing; and it would take a lifetime to learn everything. I wrote that the information on the internet starts to get a little redundant after a while. Of course there are so many other sources out there, which I have used to faniliraize myself with the history. One really good one is "The Divine Nine." OKay ladies, I'll have to chat later. I have to go.

" Without struggle, there is no progress."
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familiarize sorry

It's interesting that you've noted a key thing about your search: that you've been researching for 3 years. That's a huge commitment of time and resources. Information, like any valued commodity is something to treasure. According to your post, it doesn't seem as if your "friends" are genuinely valuing information. I would advise you to not release the information you've gathered throughout the course of your search.

Think of it this way: If you and an equally qualified friend were vying for the same job, would you share all of the information that you have? I don't think so. You'd probably share selected pieces of information that would ensure that you had the competitive advantage. You may choose to share nothing. The same may apply here.



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Sisterfriend, Mahogony 04,

I had no intention to challenge you or question your knowledge. Again, I was just making a point that the information is not redundant. Niether did I consider your post a personal attack, I am dissapointed that you considered mine to be such. As AKA2D '91, said "we" meaning Sisterfriends are not on a team as of yet, I know some interestees who will "probably" be selected and some of them I am already close to. But I now know that I will only share my book with my linesisters who are assigned to me by the Chapter members "IF" I am selected. Over 65 girls attended the interest meeting I attended. When they have Rush that fiqure will increase, they will not choose everyone..therefore that makes it a contest. I would like to be one of the finishers.

On that lighter note, Memberfriend Kitten03, I have found the stories of the founders and theirs lives after chartering Alpha Kappa Alpha to be very interesting. The death of Majorie Hill is very sad. She was honored by being the first and I often wonder why she died so young but have not been able to find a concrete answer I am definitely a Nosy Nellie, I have been up till two in the morning reading through books and searching the different websites. The Divine Nine is a good piece of reference but I have found other sources to be even more valuable. Some Chapters put more on their websites than others. It is a WONDERFUL journey and I am loving every minute of it. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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Thank you to ALL the young ladies who posted a response to my question. I was nervous about starting a topic but desperately wanted advice. I respect everyone's opinions and I pray that we (Sisterfriends) all make it to membership. However, as one of my favorite members of Alpha Phi Alpha fraternity says, http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif"Many are Called, but Few are Chosen," http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif He knows who he is, probably. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif But the point is now I understand what you ladies are saying and I guess that is why I sensed my own reluntance to share information and asked the question to be assured that I was not being selfish. Again, thank you again for your input.

i would hope though that if you withold information from another sisterfriend it is not for self-serving reasons...like you are afraid they will get in and you won't...it should only be because maybe they are not ready for it...and at the time you came into the information...you were ready for it...to digest it and not flaunt it...it should be so that they find their own path...not because you are trying to obstruct theirs out of fear... http://www.plauder-smilies.de/love/pinklove.gif

ENDROAD, I can feel where you're coming from. I have been researching and collecting information almost daily for the past year and a half. I have been to nearly every webpage listed under greekpages.com, gone thru nearly every book available, and talked to God knows how many Greeks to obtain info on not only Alpha Kappa Alpha, but the other 8 NPHC BGLOs as well. As it has been said before, most of the information is easily accesible. No one knows where or what's in my notebook, but if someone that I know is also SERIOUSLY interested and in DIRE need of help, I will do all that I can to help. I'll point you in the right direction, but that's it--I'm not going to give you anything.

http://www.plauder-smilies.de/sad/nixweiss.gif This one is a hard one. I know some older sorors who's mouths would drop at the notion of SF's not wanting to help each other. I was always told the "sisterliness/bond" begins long before your selection. You should know everybody that is chosen right along with you (maybe not their life story, but enough)....but, then, there IS the discretion that has to be figured into deciding who you share your info with..whenever I got new info, I called my sisterfriends to update them & vice versa. A lot of times that cross referencing brought misinformation to light (and, saved what could have been a SUPER embarrassing moment)..this may have been mentioned before, but what if you don't share info with a SF & she makes it..while you remain a SF..that may not sit well w/her..and, you could become known as an unsisterly Sister Friend..like I said, this is a hard one.. http://www.plauder-smilies.de/sad/nixweiss.gif

Soror, I agree with you 108%... It is about discretion!!!!ENDROAD, this person that you are contemplating sharing info with, how well do you know his person? How close are you? Or is it a group of people? I ask this because, I too answered these same questions. And I was able to share with 1 person that I am very cool with. For me it is a respect thing! If you are not bringing nothing to the table, then do not expect me to give you all of my meal!!!IF this person have not done any researching or just the minimal (and you probably can reasonably determine this), then maybe you can offer some kind SF advice and point that person in the right direction.

Off the subject....

Someone mentioned this, and it has been bothering every since.....It may have been in this or another thread...

But the statement was " ...that they hope ALL SF make it into Alpha Kappa Alpha." AND I have to beg to differ! And I say this only because everyone is not meant or is made to be a lady of Alpha Kappa Alpha. Some Sorors may agree, some may not. Maybe it was just a kind gesture...

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I am at home......

I have been a serious interestee for about a year and a half and only in the last 6 months have I done some serious researching, partially because I did a research paper on BGLOs. Through the use of the internet I have amassed my own collection of information from websites such as the National website of the fraternity, the individual chapter's website and various other sites. Talking with members, I've even read the Divine Nine from cover to cover. So my acquired knowledge of what I want to pursue is very thorough. But I'm always looking for more to study up on. Does anyone know of any good websites I should check out?

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Memberfriend AKA2D ‘91,

That is EXACTLY what I am talking about. I would be EXTREMELY http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif upset if a Sisterfriend I had so diligently assisted just happened to be selected and I was not. There are only so many places to be filled on any Chapter's agenda, I presume, so I want to be sure that I receive a place, the rest just has to be set aside. I gave advice so freely recently but had to restrain myself when I saw my other Sisterfriends using this advice to gain favor with the Chapter Members. I consider myself to be a very kind person so, it was hard for me to come to a conclusion on my own regarding this matter. However, I see that all of the responses have told me to basically "Keep It To My Self" and "Allow Others To Do Their Own Work." Is there anyone out there who disagrees, I would like to hear your side also. This is very important to me and I think it will help other Sisterfriends too, both those who HAVE researched and those who HAVE NOT researched on their own.

I will share this verse that has assisted me in being patient through life and as I travel on my journey to Alpha Land, (no disrespect intended). http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God, and the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7

AKA2D '91 At THIS juncture, a TEAM DOES NOT exist! So, right now, it's about I making the TEAM!
Whatever happens AFTER the team has been chosen is ANOTHER thread!

This is so true. I was told this many times! Seeking membership is not a group effort. You have to put your best foot forward and act is if your are the only one showing interest. Even though you may have a close friend who wants to join with you if she is not pulling her weight with research, sorry to say she will get left behind.

P.S. if you read my earlier post you will see there is more than just the web and books! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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AKA2D '91 At THIS juncture, a TEAM DOES NOT exist! So, right now, it's about I making the TEAM!
Whatever happens AFTER the team has been chosen is ANOTHER thread!

This is so true. I was told this many times! Seeking membership is not a group effort. You have to put your best foot forward and act is if your are the only one showing interest. Even though you may have a close friend who wants to join with you if she is not pulling her weight with research, sorry to say she will get left behind.

P.S. if you read my earlier post you will see there is more than just the web and books! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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Sisterfriend Mahogony4,

I asked for opinions on whether or not I should share the information I have collected and you gave me yours. Therefore, I want to be clear that this response is not directed to that statement but the statements made in the part of your quote I copied above. No offense, okay, but you have proven my point of how different three months of research versus three years of research can make. No the information has not been redundant at ALL. In fact, I would like to pose a couple of questions to you on information that is available through some "general" and some "very deep" research. For Example: Can you name the 9 original Founders and the 7 Sophomores? What year was the 1st initiation held? What year and where was the first Ivy Leaf planted? Where did they get it from? How many Chapters are in the region you are interested in? True enough, I would probably learn all of this from the Chapter Members "IF" I am selected but I know they will also be impressed if I already know some things as well, I know because they have told me they already are and encouraged me to keep researching. Keep Striving Sisterfriends, My Prayers are with you ALL.

SF, a few months ago, I was just where you are now! I was torn somewhat because I had readily attainable info that I wondered if I should share (and yes was even asked) with other intrestees.. And you know what I did, I kept it to myself! Nothing personal, but I did this for more of a selfish reason. What if they made it and I didn't, then they probably would REALLY expect me to know ALL the info we shared. So I took it upon myself to learn all of this info, and to only share with the other people that If (and I was http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif) I was extended an invitation for membership and my linesisters.

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