James, I see one day you encountering the wrong woman, and her going Lorena Bobbit on you.

Passive aggressive much, James? ;)




I think you have a massive fear of confrontation.

And yes, someday you will meet a (perhaps crazy) woman who will blow your theory on "less drama" out of the water. :D

I think the "its not you its me" phrase might be just true . . .

We don't like the other person anymore . . blaming them for it seems a little odd, or cruel.

'Sides that conversation is never about the real issues, its baout being hurt, and angry. Thats a lose-lose situation to be in.

Ever argue with an angry emotional woman before lol? ITs not exactly a logical discussion ;)

I'd rather just not be told at all and never hear from her again. I think that'd probably be the easiest way to get dumped and the safest. I've never been dumped and if it were to ever happen I'd probably tear the girl down so bad, mentally, she'd want to be a lesbian by the time I was done.

I personally like the whole "I'll just ignore you for a month and then never talk about anything relationship-y again whenever I talk with you," approch.

Ha.

Oh my God, NO! I hate people who ignore issues, or never return calls! I would rather hear the meanest, most hurtful words ever to be spoken than have someone never call me again or never tell me what I did wrong!

Oh wait, I don't do anything wrong... :)

Ha!:D

I apologize. I should have elaborated that silence was how my last bf broke up with me. He ignored me for a month, and then talked to me over AIM as though we were friends. And would never talk about why he ignored me/ broke up with me. I was being bitter.

In person, with a very well thought out explanation, and then I prefer that they leave me alone for 4 months.

My current boyfriend (we've broken up three times) doesn't get the leave me alone thing, and so we always get back together!!

In person, no other way. Phone, e-mail, etc is just the coward's way out, and it's rude.

In person, always do it in person. I've been broken up with over the phone once and it made me lose any respect for the guy that I might possibly have had.
Anytime that I've broken up with someone it's been in person and while it wasn't exactly a great deal of fun at least I didn't feel like some kind of chicken because I couldn't face the issue that was bugging me. And I didn't use the, "it's not you it's me" cliche, I think that's such a total cop out.

write it in shoe polish on their car window, then transfer schools, or states. just kidding. be honest, because if you dont they will tear themselves down wondering what they did wrong, it causes way to much emotional crap. plus they will never have the much needed closure

Never ever say the following phases (even if they are true) b/c they are soooo overused, and then it just comes arcoss insincere....

"It's not you, it's me..." (we all know that really means "Yes it is YOU")

"I don't want a long term relationship right" (every guy who has ever said this to me has immediately entered a long term relationship-maybe it is just my bad luck)

"Can we still be friends?" (only use it if you mean it!)

I would prefer to hear the truth (even if it really hurt) so if I have a problem I can try to fix it so I don't keep making the same mistake!

When my last boyfriend and I broke up, neither one of us had to actually say the words. We discussed our problems first, and agreed that we couldn't work them out. Then I said, "We both know what the solution to this is, just neither one of us wants to say it." That was it. It was honestly the best break-up, no one was upset, and we could actually BE friends instead of just saying we would and not actually doing it. I know that most break-ups can't work out this way, but it was a huge relief from how my relationships usually end.

ok, i found this thread by luck! i have to break it off with this guy. the truth of the matter is 1. he is overbearing 2. he pouts if he doesn't get his way 3. i have decided i am not attracted to him anymore because of his personality.
so how do i say this nicely? i am assuming "you suck, now go away" won't suffice. (i am kidding!)

here's a little more info:
a bunch of sorority women walked into the restaurant where we were eating and he made a comment "I hate sorority chicks, they are bunch of stupid sluts"......i had to point out to him how he was SO wrong.

i haven't mentioned that i am moving to florida soon.

so what should i say?