You never know how different chapters will react to knowing someone is a legacy. She just has to be as open and welcoming as possible during recruitment and hope they all will want her for who she is, not because she's a leg at a different chapter, nor treat her unfairly because of it.

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Originally posted by astroAPhi I'm sure if she doesn't yap about it to everyone within earshot, she'll be fine.

I did this too, unknowingly. I was extremely naive going through recruitment. My sister wasn't widely known outside of her chapter and had just graduated when I started school, but when I got the standard "Why did you decide to go through recruitment" question, I answered: "I was really involved with activites in high school and want to continue those activities. Plus, my sister was in a chapter so I got to see and liked what Greek life is about." That was always followed by "Oh? What house was she in?" and me always telling them which one [stupid, stupid, stupid] and was cut very hard after that day. It all worked out in the end, I ended up pledging the chapter I was a leg at and had a wonderful four years there.

BWAHAHA, Dani, me too!

I think it depends on the status of the chapter too - if the chapter is one that's very desirable a lot of sororities will say "well of course she will want ABC, because everyone wants ABC." If it's a sorority that is not as popular, they might take a second look at her.

Not that this doesn't suck for the rushee too - just cause the chapter is popular doesn't mean it's the one she wants.

That would make three of us!

While I was in school, we lost a legacy to another house (she & her roomie pledged together), but we had three other legacies from other houses go ADPi. Interestingly, all three thought that their legacy house hadn't treated them like a legacy, and not a one felt the least bit bad about not going to their legacy house. And they were ALL quality women!

In agreement to all that has been posted-depends on the university. At my school, almost all legacies are double, triple, even quadruple legacies to the "older" chapters on campus, and usually from the same university. Many of our groups started out as locals in early 1940s-50s and couldn't colonize as nationals until the 60s-70s. They usually take all their legs. But "younger" chapters 70s-80s- have a harder time getting their legs because they aren't as old and usually the person they are a legacy to went to a different university and so they are more open to greek in general.

Some groups on our campus will cut you if you are a legacy to something else, simply because they can only invite so many girls and if you aren't their legacy why do they want to invite you back? But others do not. So tell your sister to keep an open mind, and she will go where she belongs.