Soror, how old are you? LOL :D

AKA2D91


That's what I was thinking!
I remember being so young and optimistic!:( :(

Hey soror, I'm 29. I'll be 30 in July. :)
Am I being too young and optimistic? LOL
SC

what a nice perspective!!
 

i am over 30 and i still believe this sentiment. i am blessed to have a great husband and i know deep in my heart that each one of you who are single will find that special someone. its about waiting patiently and continue to work to be the person God wants you to be.

Always the youthful optimist :D .

Re: what a nice perspective!!
 

Thanks for the compliment Darling!
I try .... :)
SC

You know, I'm always told that I'm a pessimist. But this is why and I'm young (28). There are just too many obstacles against us. I know all is not lost but I know my hopes and dreams are long gone. I think I'm more of a realist.

Soror, how are your "hopes and dreams . . . long gone?" Didn't you just become a member of the most illustrious sisterhood on the planet? Girl, stop trippin. :p Things can only get better.

SC

I have to ask, is this a fairly regular occurrence in the AfAm community? It's been discussed in this thread and in the "what if he's celibate?" thread. I guess I hear about men (of all races) who are married with a family and then come out, but it just didn't seem to be something that occurred all that often. Is it a cultural thing?

LilHannah,
Is what a cultural thing?

SC

Sorry for not being clear.

Men who are gay pretending to be straight. It seems to be a concern on here, and rightfully so, but it doesn't seem to be an issue in the white dating community. But then again I haven't been dating all that long, so it may very well be. I just know that when I am out with a guy the thought "Is he gay and trying to pass as straight?" never crosses my mind. I'm just trying to understand if this is more prevalent in the AfAm community.

Soror,

I meant long gone as far as men but You are right!!!!!! Things are only gonna get better!!!!


I love my sorors!!!!!!!!!!!

i have seen many white men who married and later came out and divorced. it is an issue for Black and white women. i'msure for all women but i haven't heard of any other women of color coming forward w/their story. people in general (women, too, aren't honest up front) aren't being honest w/themselves and their partners. homosexuality isn't the issue, the dishonesty is.:rolleyes:

Thanks for your reply. I wasn't trying to turn it into anything ugly, I just hadn't really heard of this as a concern other than on the GC boards and I was looking for further understanding. Maybe it's I'm not familiar with the problem because I'm still young and my friends aren't really in serious relationships/married/looking to get married yet.

HMMMMMMMM....
 

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(From the website)

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Sometimes I think I have seen it ALL...but dang.

Is it cultural?
 

Here's a thought. In a previous discussion of homosexuality and downlow brothers, it was stated that the Black community was much less accepting of homosexuality than white communities. Someone said that this was a reason behind some of the dishonesty and secrecy. So maybe it is more prevalent in Black communities b/c men don't feel comfortable being "out" and gay. Maybe in white communities gay men are just gay men, so they don't have to hide that behind a straight lifestyle. Also, do you think that the # of black men who visit prison has anything to do with it? I can't imagine that you'd ever be right if you "crossed that line".

Marie