You know, I wonder if the handing out of bids "like that" at COB is standard practice.


When I went through COB, one group I visited multiple times started handing out bids one evening. There were only two of us PNMs at that particular event and they pulled each of us aside separately. When it was my turn, I was told very politely that I would not be receiving a bid. In effect, I was told that I was "too old" and that they felt bad because I would be graduating soon. (Amalia, I know how that feels....been there, done that) I was cool with that.


However....


They invited me to stay for the rest of the evening. I stayed because I had been given a ride there and I didn't want to make one of the sisters take me home early. Besides, I understood their decision to not offer me a bid. I walked back over to the group and right then the president made an announcement to everyone that the new member had accepted her bid. I'm the ONLY other PNM there and I didn't get a bid. Since everyone else is a sister, I know they must have voted on me and knew I didn't get a bid. Plus, the announcement made it very clear that I was not included in that congratualtions. So I felt really bad standing there like a big loser while everyone launced into their sorority cheers for the other girl. :(


Even when you understand a decision and are ok with it, that type of situation is sad and embarassing. :(


.....Kelly :)

No. When we had open bid parties we waited till after the party and delivered the bid to the girl at her residence. That is the way everyone else received their bids so it was only fair to do it that way since they didn't get to have a big bid day.

Unless you are giving bids to EVERY rushee at the party, handing them out on the premises is tres tacky. I'm sorry that both of you had to deal with that.

It just seems incredibly rude to give out bids to a couple of girls at a COB party...unless EVERYONE is getting a bid, don't do it. I can imagine why you'd feel awkward in that situation.

Good luck, Amalia17!

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