Thanks for your supportive posts! The situation isn't as bad as it seems some of you think it is. I don't want to deactivate because I do love belonging to my sorority. It's just questioning whether I would've belonged better in a different one. But I've made my decision for a reason and I'm going to stick to it. I hope that living in the house will help me to get to know people better and maybe even get into some kind of leadership position so that I can reach out to more people. Being in my GLO has been discouraging at times, yet very rewarding overall. If nothing else, I've though so far, I wouldn't have met my lil sis who is now one of my best friends and we wouldn't be going on Spring Break together! I think though, that it makes me not feel so guilty for having doubts, reading these posts. Thanks for your help :)

lilcutie, Just like everyone else here, I too had some doubts if where I was initiated was truly where I fit in the best. I was worried that I wouldn't fit in because just like you, I too am in a prodominately Jewish house. But I love it now even though I am alum. I have learned things taht I don't think I would have learned had I not joined SDT. I talk to my friends in other houses and think what if... But I wouldn't change my decision if I had the chance because even now that I am alum, I still feel connected to the house and know that there is an alum chapter that I can join and meet even more wonderful women. I am glad that you decided to stick with it.


ETA: HotDamnImAPhiMu, your post was very encouraging for those who are ever going through this situation. Thanks for posting it.

Elena

as others have said
 

living in the house can be a real bonding experience. you don't have to make an effort to go over to the house-you are there.
everything that happens in the house-good and bad- you will be able to experience. sometimes the people living out feel a little "out of the loop". well, you'll be in the loop. and you might feel the sisterhood more strongly living in.

but in another vein, i have a cousin who is a member of a sorority-her daughter went thru formal recruitment and updated her mom on a daily basis. all the top sororities on her campus were in the running to pledge her, but at the end she chose her mom's sorority. i know for a fact that my cousin did not pressure her daughter to join her chapter-it was the daughters decision alone.
they were the top group on campus. now whether daughter joined to please her mom or because they were the top chapter, i don't know, but from the get-go she was not happy. she did stick it out and has since graduated. did she learn to love it? unfortunately no. i think if she chooses to join an alumnae chapter she might learn to love it. does this story have a moral?not really. i shared it just because sometimes people do make mistakes. but that is part of life. i hope that your story works out differently that my cousins daughters did. best wishes.

Well, I came across this thread a few days ago and I've been trying to think of what I wanted to say in reply. I am also a GC member, under another name, because some of you may know me and where I go to school and I would rather just save the drama!

Lilcutie, I feel like I have been in your situation this past year especially. I joined my org. a couple years ago, but I've always questioned whether it was the right place for me. During rush, quota is always emphasized, and at times I wonder if I was invited to be a part of this sorority just to fill a slot. The girls front really well during rush, and I think this kind of suckered me in. I've only had a few friendships to come out of my affiliation with this group, and sorority life has not turned out to be what I hoped it would.

I don't want to quit though, simply because a) I DID make a promise and I feel that I should honor it, and b) I keep telling myself that it might get better someday, that there is a bigger picture outside of this chapter alone. Sometimes I feel like I'm so alone, and like I am wasting my money, because I know I'm not getting out of this organization what some of the other girls are. I don't have much in common with many of them, and even from the get-go many of the older sisters basically snubbed me while doting on some of my other pledge sisters. I joined a sorority to find acceptance, love, and friendship, and I have never really felt like my efforts were being returned.

Last year was better. I managed to get close to a few of the girls and I enjoyed myself in the sorority for the first time. But after summer, some of my so-called "friends" found a new group of friends... and had no intentions of including me in their new circle of friendship. It hurts to feel like you're being picked over, and the majority of my experience in this sorority has been more like dealing with high school cliques than genuine sisterhood.

Granted, it's had its good times, but right now I am questioning membership as well. An alumni told me to stick with it for the memories, but I am wondering if it's really worth it anymore. I just feel like nobody takes me seriously and I dont really have any true friends in the sorority anymore...

And just a note to ppl like Tom whose viewpoint I dont share... I am happy that your greek experience was so much more positive than mine, but there is only so much heart you can put into something without return before it starts to get broken. If I were to turn in my pin, I honestly think some of the girls would be more upset at the fact that there was a new slot to fill (for quota) than they would be at the fact that I was gone.

Sometimes people outgrow their chapters, or they get burned out. I have seen it happen. It is sad. Some people just fit in better. I think that if you have interests outside of your sorority, it might enhance your sorority and your college experiences.

I hope that you are able to find what you are looking for from your sorority. :)

Perhaps you should talk to your sisterhood chair and chapter president with your concerns. They might be able to give you constructive advice that is specific to your chapter and your concerns. It is difficult for me to give advice when I don't know you, your chapter, or your situation personally. I wish you the best. :)