I agree. To be completely honest, I would've had the same reaction, without intending for her to hear it. However, because she did hear it, perhaps this will make her think about the way she presents herself from now on.




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I'm not even gonna try to respond to this right now maybe later but not now. I can see the entire scene in my head as i'm typing and i'm rotf.

ummmmmmm! http://www.plauder-smilies.de/faga1.gif

Now, she should have known better than that. To come out looking any ole kind of way. That ain't cool.

Soror, I'm sure it was just ONE OF THOSE MOMENTS.

I think I would have done it...someone needed to tell her. I understand the issues of self-esteem and whatnot, maybe after this incident, she will realize that wearing stuff like that doesn't make her look as "cute" as she obviously wants to look.

I know I'm going to get a million and one flames over this, but it is possble that her mother knows. Some parents just don't have their priorities straight...just interested in going out and doing what they want to do. Of course, these are the same ones who ask where they went wrong when they become grandmothers at an early age. Mothers, especially single mothers, have careers outside of the home on a much wider scale than they did a generation or so ago, and don't see what their daughters and sons are up to. I know I STILL (at 20!) would not be let out of the house looking like that! Yikes!

On one hand you were right, she needed to hear that from a total stranger and not her "friends" so she can understand what "real" people think of her. On another hand, that was kind of mean, but I can't talk cause I probably would have said it too.

Did she cry?

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No, she just held her hands over her chest and huddled behiind the others in the group like she was trying to hide.

I think that even though you did not intend to say it out loud, maybe it was best for her to hear it.

I've read the other posts to this reply, and I know that some feel that you should've pulled her to the side to tell her that what she was wearing was inappropriate-I disagree.

I bet at home all of her family members are telling her that it's not becoming, but she doesn't want to hear it. When telling the truth to someone, do not sugarcoat it-tell it like it is. These days, the younger generations think that we older folk are out of touch with what's up-to-date, and with these hoochie mamas in our faces in these videos that we see, some girls probably think that that is the way to look to be accepted. For you to actually tell this young girl how she looked in a way that she probably talks to her friends about others,

"I can't believe she is wearing that! She looks stank!"

I think that it may have done the trick.
Sure, it hurt her, but I think that hurting her feelings was the only way to get through to her.

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Peace and God Bless
*Classy_Diva5*

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