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Originally posted by Ideal08
I agree with both d1 and RD. Booty calls are just that, booty calls. No conversation is needed before, during, or after.

One of my rules is NO SEX WITH COWORKERS!!!! EVER!!!

LMAOOOOOOOOOOO! Shucks, you don't even need to know names.... LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO!

yes, indeed! :D (I've been reading too much Zane!)

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
LMAOOOOOOOOOOO! Shucks, you don't even need to know names.... LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO!

yes, indeed! :D (I've been reading too much Zane!)

LMAO!!!!!!!!! No names?!?!?! LMAO!!!!!!!

Re: Decorum for the Morning After

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Originally posted by Convinced
(How's this for a New Year's Thread?)

I have a, ahem, friend who just did the do with a co-worker. There were supposed to be no strings attached, i.e., as in Carrie and her "luvah" on Sex & The City.... just friends with a little something extra to smile about at work. Well, my friend is appalled that her "luvah" hasn't even called and at work acts like nothing happened.... I know, I mean, my friend knows ;) that no committment means no rules... but shouldn't there be just a little bit of decorum after the deed? What do you all think?

1. What are your thoughts on the above situation?

and

2. What do you think the rules for the morning after should be?

Mine are as follows:

1. The man should call first within ONE day of the deed.
2. There should be some mention that the act occurred ( I enjoyed our time together last night.... I hope we can be with each other again soon.... )

I agree that the rules that you listed seem to imply that there really are strings attached. In my opinion, if they are going to have a no strings attached affair, she (nor he) should expect anything. Just go with the flow. If you hear from the person, you do, if you don't, you don't. No one owes the other anything but respect. It doesn't sound like his behavior was disrespectful so I really don't see anything wrong with it.

Also, I think that the fact that they are both working at the same location may come into play here. He probably wants to be extra careful not to send any cues to anyone.

SC

Re: Re: Decorum for the Morning After

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Originally posted by SummerChild
Also, I think that the fact that they are both working at the same location may come into play here. He probably wants to be extra careful not to send any cues to anyone.

SC

He may also have a few other game pieces on the same board.

Re: Decorum for the Morning After

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Originally posted by Convinced
1. What are your thoughts on the above situation?
and
2. What do you think the rules for the morning after should be?

1. If it was no strings attached...then it's NO strings attached (and there's no reading between the lines)!!!! No phone calls from him/her.....NOTHING! I've learned my lesson!

2. Sorry to be so blunt, but if it was only about sex to begin with and that was agreed upon by both parties, then that's exactly what it is and nothing more. Don't get your feelings involved...you'll just get hurt in the end by expecting more than there ever was. As my mother said, you never shit where you eat. Been there, done that...and I shall never shit where I eat ever again. Now if it's what you agreed to, but secretly wanted more...then you set yourself up for this. Once again, been there done that. Neither of you owe each other a thing except for respect...nothing more nothing less.

board crash ahead...

One of my friends told me that he "does not dip his pen in the company ink."

Words to live by, my friends.