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Well, I talked to the girl that I used to date. She's not cool with me trying to start something with her sister.

Oh MAN this makes me glad that my boyfriend and I were together before we were greek!

But in all honesty, I would feel wierd dating one of his brothers because 1. I am their sweetheart, and 2. well, since I'm their sweetheart I just don't see them in a romantic relationship aspect.

If he dated one of my sisters, I might kill them. Ha Ha!

What you really have to figure out is how important all this is to all the parties involved. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. If we were to date someone in our respective organizations it would be rough because of all the time we were together -- our whole college careers.

As an example though, one of his brothers was with his girlfriend for like 5 years and then they broke up and she went running to his BIG BROTHER. It caused havoc in the frat and basically the guy that got the girl was shunned by most of the fraternity. It was a sticky icky situation for me and other parties involved, especially because I was close with both sides. If possible, avoid this at all costs -- and if you decide to go through with it -- DON'T do it behind eachother's backs. It will not end well.

When I was in college, I dated a Pike for a few months. Well, they are a relatively new chapter, and when I broke up with him, word got around that I was off-limits to the rest of the guys (hurt one, hurt us all sort of thing). I still hung out with them, but they and I both knew that no relationships were going to happen.

I guess that didn't really work, as I'm marrying one of their chapter founders :) He was out of school by the time this happened, though, so I guess that doesn't count :)

We had the "ask first" rule in our sorority... if a sister wanted to date an ex of another sister, she had to ask her if it would be okay. For the most part it worked quite well.... except for one situation where a girl said "sure" when she really meant "I'll hate you for life", and major drama ensued. So if you have something like this... please, please follow it truthfully. Saying yes when you really mean no is just going to hurt Everyone!

I think one of the great things about dating other Greeks is that you understand each other's committment to your houses. My fiance was pledging when we first started dating, and I had already been an active for a year and a half (I rushed my frosh year, and he rushed his junior year). We have always understood what it is to be part of the Greek system. I know so many non-Greeks who date Greeks and don't understand the importance of keeping ritual secrets, recruitment, living in the house, etc. It's great to be engaged to someone who won't think it's weird when I want to decorate my daughter's rooms in pansies and kites!

Here are the rules at my boyfriend's chapter:

Non-Serious Relationship: 2 weeks til a bro can date another bro's ex-girl

Serious Relationship: 3 month's til she's "touchable".

But in all cases they MUST have the bro's permission to date her

My chapter, well, a sister can't touch another's former guy whatsoever. We're selfish! :p

Well said.

Go get her.

LOL. Her sisterhood isn't your problem. Why are you inihibiting what you want because of an EX? Which part of EX is difficult to grasp lol?

If bX knows there will be a problem she can deal with it. It was nicer than you had to be just to mention it to aX and watch her go mess it up for you anyway . . . Girls can be good that way lol.

Also, think of it this way: Is not potentially irritating your EX girlfriend a good reason to mess up a relationship with someone that might be the best thing that ever happened to you if only you gave her a chance?

Go for it. You are foolish beyond reason if you don't.

I agree...

Not dating this girl simply because your ex is in the same sorority is ridiculous. If there is a problem, it is not your concern. You were courteous enough to let her know of the possiblity...so now she knows and will not be blindsided by you unexpectedly showing up at a sorority event on the arm of one of her sisters. NOW, she knows you are interested in her, probably knows bX is intersted in you too...and it is up to her to choose to handle it in a mature way.

Just because you are greek doesn't mean you don't live in the real world! And if you REALLY like this girl and it is worth it to risk it to date her...then do so. If you would rather spare aX's feelings, then you probably don't really like bX all that much to begin with...

I don't know about dating in our chapter because it's never come up but if one brother hurts a sister, then it really sucks for you cause no other sister is ever going to speak to him again and the rest of the fraternity will have a hard time getting in our good graces again. For example, I hooked up with a Theta Chi at my school one night who turned out to be a total player and a total jerk. Once word got around to all my sisters about it, they won't talk to him. We have a mixer coming up with them and he pretty much might as well not show up cause none of the girls are going to talk to him. It took some coaxing just to get us to think positively about the rest of the brothers after that..... all it takes is one bad apple.

yeah I agree that you have to have permission b/c I mean its basically an unstated rule of girls in general not just sisters that you dont touch someone that your friend has dated. I mean especially if youve slept together cause that just makes it wierd I think. not to say ive never dated anyone that a friend has dated but I had her permission and neither one of us slept with the person so it made it a bit different.


Nichole

Oh, so much bull shit! Period!:(

Love is blind betweeen He and She!

When I got Divorced, My Ex moved in with a Brother of mine.

I called him about something doing with the Alums and he was evasive. But one must remember that At one time He was Key Note Speaker at Founders Day. She was sitting at the Head Table with him. His closest Brothers and some of mine sat with me so I would not get upset! Ha!

I told him hey, You get Married and divorced, but you are a Brother for life!

We are still close Brothers.

So, it did not work out! Da, how many times has this happened? Hell, as I said, Love is Blind!:D

Just wish the couple happiness and if that doesent work out, well, check the divorce rates!:eek: