Where the heck have YOU been hiding?:p


Oh, to answer your question...basically, what Hootie said. Honestly, if I couldn't talk to him about my likes/dislikes/fantasies, I would have to think twice about sleeping with him...but that's just moi. Don't set yourself up for disappointment! Good Luck.

And me, too. If you can't talk about it, you shouldn't be having it.

You shouldn't be sleeping with him in the first place. Especially if you do not know how he will react. That signifies that you do not know him well. Certainly not well enough to sleep with him. Use your head... It isn't romantic if you put the rose petals down. You might as well be alone. He won't like it. Whay is that romantic if you do it? It is a serious question. Why is it romantic? I am not being mean, I am curious. If HE layed them down for you it would be romantic, but not if you do it. As far as I am concerned, it would be like saying, "I won't sleep wit him until he sends me flowers", and then sending them to yourself... I don't understand your POV. I am just trying to help... I am sure he really likes you and cares for you, but Rose petals are the farthest thing from any guys mind, so don't feel bad if your boyfriends don't go out and get them.

Hellooooo, morality police! I think she should be sleeping with whomever she darn well pleases and doesn't need any of our approval.

yeah... great point. was i talking to you? She was the one that expressed her concern about sleeping with people that were not special. If you want to be the town whore, I could care less. She expressed ethical concern. Relax. I was wondering why she thought it was romantic. Thanks

Re: cute...or psycho...???
 

2 Words.

Norman Mailer.

Kitso
KS 361 times you could substitue Ed Gein or Hannibal Lecter if you wanted

It's an open forum. Just like you are free to give advice that not too many people will follow, she is free to tell you she thinks it stinks. I personally didn't read an ethical question, just a question about whether her behavior was weird or not.

But have fun with the judging.

see, i've sent you the IM's and someone's too good to get at someone back.

As a guy I wouldn't consider it psycho, just strange.

So we are making out and you send me for a glass of water and when I come back . . . voila . . . there are rose petals everywhere.

If you are going to do that why not just straight out use a seduction scene?

Invite him over for food and have the room pretreated with candles and rose petals.

But, it still looks odd in my mind's eye.

WHOA WHOA WHOA Hold on here... She asked for GUYS opinions especially, I was giving her my opinion. What is with the judging comment? She asked for opinions... If the board is so open, how come I get flamed by all of you. What the heck? Why are you all so mad? What is going on? I was asking a fair question. I wanted a fair answer. Maybe she wasn't looking at it from that perspective, and it would help. My point, was that I think sleeping w/ someone is a big deal, you may not... thats fine. To me, her opening remarks made it look like she thought along the same lines as myself, (that sleeping with someone is a big deal). Everytime I try to ask a serious question, a bunch of women come in and flame me out of the thread. It is so damn stupid. I guess I will go back and talk to ILOVEKIPWINGER. At least that guy makes me laugh... Why can't you all deal with tangible questions. ANY GIRL can answer the queston for me, you two can if you would like... I never said that you can't go sleep with people until the cows come home, that is your business. Go do it. Fine. You didn't ask for opinions. Please can I get an answer to my question asked 5 posts above this one? I am not judging her AT ALL. NEVER DID. Gosh.

anyone?

As a female, I agree with you.

I may have misunderstood the original question, as well, but I thought bgsugirlie was saying that she wasn't going to sleep with someone again unless the situation was right, romantic, etc. Now, call me crazy, but I don't think there's much romance when it comes to 2 people just having sex for the hell of it. And I'd be a little freaked out if some guy I wasn't pretty seriously involved with or had serious feelings for lit candles, had rose petals, etc. So I think it was a fair assumption that she was saying she wasn't going to sleep with someone until it was more serious. That may be the wrong assumption, but people made it.

Some guys will come up with that scenario on their own - very few guys, but nonetheless, some will. If you want to wait for that type of scenario, then I would guess that you should wait till it's a fairly stable, somewhat serious connection you have. And if it's very important to you, then you shouldn't settle for less. Do I think it's cute or psycho to do it yourself? Well, I think that it would be romantic if you were in a committed relationship and (like someone else said) do the whole romance/seduction scene yourself. It would be kind of odd to go get water for someone and come back and have rose petals on your bed, especially if you aren't in a relationship. (I wasn't sure what type of relationship you two have)

I was referring to your town whore comment. I thought it was UNCALLED FOR.

Re: Re: cute...or psycho...???
 

do you mean Norman BATES?

Norman Mailer is a famous author ;)

allergies????
 

Ok, I hate to be the voice of reason......BUT....From a practical perspective. How is he not going to notice the roses? Also, you've known him for a while, make sure he's not allergic. I agree with some other posters who suggest that this may not be a good "1st time" idea. However, it would be great for valentine's day, or an anniv.

Good Luck, and watch out for the thorns :cool: