GREETINGS EVERYONE!
I AM KINDA CONFUSED. I SAW SOUL FOOD THE OTHER NIGHT, TOO, AND MY UNDERSTANDING IS THAT NINA WAS BORN BEFORE PAPA AND MAMA JOSEPH EVEN GOT TOGETHER. DID I MISS SOMETHING?? :CONFUSED:

I have a question for you all...

What difference would it make to all the dead folks of who's buried next to whom? What can the dead folks do about it anyway? Then why would the child outta an adulturous liason would go and ask the sisters anyway? Guess I'd havta see the show to know for myself.

But as for me personally, I don't think I would have SO much claim to my father's life to dictate who he's buried next to or not. Just as long as he had an appropriate burial would be more important to me. And as far as my mother's feelings, well, if she's dead, then how she gonna feel anything? And you cannot say that it's spiritually foul because who's to say what goes on up in Heaven or down in Hell... Think about what King David did with Bathsheba... I'm not a Mormon so I don't believe we will be with "families" when we get to Heaven if we are so fortunate. I think we will be a new creature unto Christ if we are allowed into Heaven. I dunno, but things do happen to folks for a reason.

In fact, the wives, concubines and mistresses of the "king" Raja of India have to jump down to their death when their husband dies. So in other cultures, it isn't a big deal about what happens after somebody's dead. I think it's what you do while you're living that most important... But that's just my personal philosophy.

She was born before Terri, but he was still married to Mama Joseph and Papa Joseph still spent time with Nina and her mom, so he and the mother were still together. Remember when they were remembering how he left that Christmas and was gone for an hour or two? He had a whole 'nother family. (excuse my Mississippi slang)

i would accept the sister of course...

the dying wish thing...whew http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif

i am sappy person when it comes to dying wishes, so probably would.

personally i would want to kick my father's butt for creeping outside his relationship, but he would be dead already, right!

Hey All:

Well. I would probably accept the girl as my sister. As stated before, it's not her fault that she was born from an adulterous union.

I don't know about the burying next to my dad and all. Someone stated how do we know that that would be what my father wanted...to be buried next to her.

I will say that it seems like no one is holding him accountable for his actions. Yeah, she is a homewrecker but without knowing the circumstances, it's hard to say how I'd feel.

OH YEAHHHH!!
THANKS CONVINCED FOR SETTIN' ME SKRAIGHT!(THAT'S MY HOMEGIRL ACCENT)

Finally Saw the Episode on Sunday. I have to agree with most. I felt the sisters were to hard on Tyra but as far as burying the Other woman let me ask the question if your mother had passed in a similar situation would you not fight just as hard to fufill her last dying request as you would to keep her away if you were the other family? I think she was wrong to do that but emotion takes the moment and the fact she was attacked by Terri and the rest did not help either.

SPhinxpoet
Finally the SPhinxpoet has come back to the PYRAMIDS!!!!!!!

Well, looking at it from that standpoint (if it were my mother's dying wish), I'd have to make an adult decision. Yes, I'd want to be accepted as a sister (esp being an only child), but I could never fix my mouth to ask this family to bury my mother next to their father. Oh, and when I take my children to see her site, what am I supposed to say? **"mommy, who's that man next to grandma?"** ---"oh, that's my father, your granddaddy."---"and mommy, who is that lady, one of our cousins?"---- "oh no dear, that's his WIFE." Uh uh, no way.

On the other side, I haven't seen the episode (now I'm dying to see it), but I would've told her no, among a few other things.

TickledPink brought up a good point.

Yes tickledpink did bring up a very good point. What would she say to her children.

Tickledpink said:
mommy, who's that man next to grandma?"**
---"oh, that's my father, your granddaddy."---"and mommy, who is that lady, one of our cousins?"---- "oh no dear, that's his WIFE."

It may go like this.

KID: "Who dat is?"
MOM/TYRA: "That's yo' grandmama baby daddy/my mama baby daddy (sans ebonics read: my father and your grandfather) and that other woman is his wife and other babies' mama."

I am sooo sorry for that.

[This message has been edited by DELTABRAT (edited January 08, 2001).]