I don't know why it seems like COB is such a "secretive" process at some schools... at mine, probably because for years most of the chapters didn't reach total through formal rush Panhellenic gives the chapters the list of non-bid women and you better bet EVERY SINGLE recruitment chair is calling them... all I can say to speed it up if your school handles COB more through Panhellenic try contacting the chapters on your own or the Panhellenic office and make youre presence known. :D

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Thanks! I was so confused!!!:)

I think emailing the recruitment chairs would be a great idea -- if they're doing COB they'll be pleased at your initiative, and if they aren't doing COB they'll still probably be flattered at your interest. Although things are getting crazy right now with finals coming up, so nothing might happen until after break... Good luck!

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Okay I'm heartbroken. I had this wonderful idea to do COB to help keep my grades, meet new girls, and all of this good stuff. The lady in the greek affairs office gave me a list of 4 sororities who were COB'ing. Well, turns out 1 sorority is not having any COB events until the middle of next semester, another sorority is already at quota, another sorority I have a friend conflict with, and the last sorority I tried to COB with last year and they seemed like they didn't care whether I was there or not. :( I'm so sad! I really wanted something to work out! I dont' know what to do. If you have any inspiration PM me, Lord knows I need it at this point. :(

I wouldn't rule out any of the three that are not at quota. The group that isn't holding events until next semester just means waiting a little while longer. And even though last year a group may not have seemed excited about you, the membership changes from year to year, and the girls who are members now may love you.

I would also recontact the greek affairs office after the semester break. A group that may not have previously been eligible to COB new members this semester may have some spaces open after grades and graduation.

I would still keep the three sororities in mind as well like BetaRose said, because you never know, and memberships/attitudes do change from year to year and in some cases depending can change semester to semester. You never know when a couple of ladies may decide not to return to school next semester or to that sorority and spaces can open up. It may also be to your advantage to wait till spring semester anyway due to the shortness of time left in this semester and finals approaching. Concentrate on your finals and do well and COB afterbreak. :)

When I was as UK, COB was done for chapters who didnt make rush quota until they reached the rush quota. Once they reached rush quota they were not allowed to COB any more women even if they were not at chapter total (though i always felt that to be rather stupid and one reason why the smaller groups stayed small). This may have changed however since I've been gone. My current school, and I believe most schools do this as well, are encouraged to COB till chapter total is reached (which is how it should work).

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My only problem with the one sorority is that some of those girls were flat out mean to me. SO much so that other sororities noticed it and came to my defense and turned those girls into the council. I have mega details but I don't want to give them over the net. I have a thread about this somewhere when I was actually going through COB last year.
One of the others my roommate was in and dropped b/c of a big incident. I was really worried last semester when I talked about talking to some of her former sisters. She kinda just smiled but I could tell it bothered her a bit.
Its just very frustrating!!!!

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Sorry I'm posting again. Why doesn't UK do that? It would make so much sense!!

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If UK is not allowing groups to bid up to total, they are violating Panhellenic rules. I would call the regional Panhel rep about changing this because it defeats the whole purpose.

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Are you serious? AchtungBaby or ThetaPrincess help me out, that is correct right? I mean the sororities here, I think, are only allowed to match quota? Which is why we have 3 sororities COB'ing and almost of them are full as of now.

You forget about me, UKDaisy? ;) I have no idea if chapters are allowed to COB to total or not, but I do know that our Panhel can be seriously messed up sometimes. They do a lot of things that are not quite right. We didn't know any different, we thought that was how it was supposed do be done, but our national consultants always remarked on it when they visited our chapter.
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good luck to you lil princess. i am COBing two sororities in the spring. may you get what your heart desires!!!!!:D

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I'm sorry Tigerlilly!!! Maybe you should PM me about some of that. Good luck girls right now that are COB'ing!! With any luck maybe I"ll have a story to tell, who knows!

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Let me once again clarify, that that is how it was done when I was there. I've been gone for three years, so I dont know if things have changed or not. Someone who has been there more recently would know better.

I'm glad the rude girls were turned in to Panhellenic.

Yeah, ours had some issues with it, too...but to the best of my knowledge, yes, sororities at UK do COB until they are at total. This I am pretty sure of, because my chapter did it when we recolonized. My pledge class was the first one from formal rush, and there were about 35 of us. Quota, obviously, was a lot more than that, but we were allowed to COB not to just quota but to chapter total. My chapter is very close to or at total, but there are a couple I can think of who probably aren't and there is nothing stopping them from COBing until they get there.