You have to keep in mind though, that no-contact rules vary widely from school to school. There are schools where you can't even talk to your little sister until rush is over if she's a rushee and you're in a sorority . . . and on the other end of the spectrum, there are schools that have very little in the way of no-contact rules at all.

I think all the points that have been brought up in this thread are great, though. Sometimes we get too excited about the benefits of Greek life that we forget to be realistic ourselves.

We have no rules regarding contact of PNMs. In fact, we're encouraged to get to know the girls between parties. Therefore, I could have GCed away if there had been a PNM from my school, and I probably would have. :)

Oh! Another thing...

Is it too much to ask to simply PM the new members with your wishes of "Good Luck" or "Congratulations," if the message is limited to that? Sometimes it really blows hard to have to wade through a lot of "You'll definately (mispelling intended) do well. Good luck!," when all you want to read is how the PNM feels about Recruitment.

Another, underused, option for subscribing to threads without posting is to scroll down waaay to the bottom of the page and click on "subscribe to this thread". That way you can subscribe without actually posting... I admit that I am guilty of not doing this myself, but oh well, I will try to remember! :)

Here's another one that is not very politically correct, but I will say it anyway:

When a PNM drops out of rush because she doesn't like the choices that are left, I have NO sympathy. Sure, getting cut hurts, but not giving other groups a chance at the next round of parties goes against everything the GC community supports.

I am sorry you got cut from your favorite chapter, but I am not sorry you did not find a home.

Well said DeltaBetaBaby!


Another thought to keep in mind:

Although we all love to hear results and who got what invites and who went where, those who are sharing their stories with us have bunches of other things going on. They are in parties, doing social activities with their fellow PNMs, have chapter and sometimes campus responsibilities, and non-sorority LIFE going on. Please respect the rights of those women to share what they wish to with us, when they are able to get on and do so.

A big THANK YOU to everyone--PNM, active, alumna, family or friend of one of the above, and especially our Recruitment Counselors--who share their recruitment stories with us on GC. I appreciate it more than you know, because I truly enjoy reading your threads even if I don't post. I thank each and every one of you for being willing to participate and share your recruitment experiences.

Fraternally,
Christin

You see, i respectlfully disagree with this. I know that there were chapters on my campus that I would not have fit in with AT ALL. If I had been cut from all the chapters that I felt a connection with, I would have dropped out of rush. I dont see anything wrong with this and I do feel sorry for PNM's that get cut from everywhere they had a connection with. You are not going to fit into/like every chapter and I wouldnt tell a girl to just accept a bid anywhere just to be a greek if she was going to be uhappy in a chapter she didnt fit in with!

No one said to accept a bid or to join a chapter you don't feel comfy with...this is about just going back to a party. Some chapters really do not "shine" until the later rounds of rush when they can concentrate more on the girls that are still there. You're not binding yourself in any way until you sign that bid card.

It actually seemed to me that actually joining was what was being referred to:

I meant that I am not sorry you did not find a home IF you did not even go to all your parties and give all the chapters a chance.

Oh, ok, I gotcha!

Please don't list the girls' names on the message boards. They don't even know most of us, please don't violate their privacy in that way. If we want to know, most schools will publish a list--which the women have consented to having their names on.

Thank you.

Do you mean if the girl herself didn't use her real name and we find out what it is via PM?

Yes, and this leads to women resigning from chapters after a year or 2 of being in them, or dropping the sorority as alumnae.

Ditto. There's nothing worse than a snap judgment -- and these things happen all the time during rush. Making more snap judgments just amplifies the negativity.

If you go to every party you can and still don't feel comfortable, then you at least can walk away with the knowledge that you opened yourself up to all possibilities.


[edited because I can't spell judgment properly]