My husband and I had been dating for 4 months before he said "I love you."

It was very worrisome, because he'd been in two serious relationships before we started dating, and he told each of those girls that he loved them within a month. He says that in retrospect, he hadn't really loved them - so he didn't want to say "I love you" to me until he was absolutely sure it was the real thing.

Nobody else I dated ever told me that they loved me - things just never got to that point.

So what you're actually saying is your husband is a retired player?



-check my previous post in this thread and you'll see why I drew this conclusion-

Um, no. :rolleyes:

My husband and I did things in a rather mixed up order. We had been friends for four years, and then we realized that we had serious feelings for each other. After telling each other "I love you," we decided that maybe we should try dating. We dated for eight years, and we will be married ten years this December.

Um, yea:rolleyes:. You just haven't realized it yet. Talk to him, ask him if he was a pimp back in the day. You might be surprised.

He said it right away. He said it and meant it a few weeks later. I said it a few weeks after that.

LOL @ aephialum being married to a retired player/pimp! ;)

Go back and read what he said to her, what do you think? Think he was telling those girls he loved them and wasn't getting any? I doubt it. He was definitely pimping out.

Its not something I throw around. But, if you feel you love the person then say so. I would love to be able to tell some one I loved them. I would want to say it first though, to prove I'm romantic.

D'OH! :eek:

I think he wishes he'd been a player... :p

In all seriousness, I know my husband better than that, and I know he wasn't getting any. I've met both of these girls. One was the wait-until-marriage type and the other was the not-waiting-until-marriage-but-not-ready-to-give-up-my-precious-flower-of-virginity-yet-either-and-besides-I'm-a-psycho type.

Hmmm... I wonder if he was telling these girls he loved them in order to get them to put out... :confused:

I'd say he probably was.....I know plenty of guys that say that to women, and it's all bullshit.

I've only said it to one guy-- my ex-boyfriend of a year and a half... it was after 2 months when he came to visit me during winter break... he said it first, then I did. We even talked about marriage after 8 months. Now we haven't talked to each other since January and I'm sure we never will. Go figure.

On our first date, which was about a month after we decided to be boyfriend/girlfriend (hey, it was high school). I said it back that night because I was a bit freaked and didn't know what to do. But I know I meant it on some level.

We'll be together 6 years on 9-7-03. We're getting married on 5-29-04. :D

My bf and I have been together for almost two and half years. Umm...we said I love you after a week. Yeah, I know it sounds rushed, but it felt like the right time. :)

I was kind of sketchy on telling my ex-bf that I loved him cuz I knew he was uncomfortable with those words, but then after we'd planned our six month trip to Niagara and then he started talking abt going to Hawaii for our one year I figured - yeah this guy is pretty committed, I can say it to him (this is around the 3.5/4 month mark) so I told him that i love him...then got broken up w/ abt a month later! prick! :(

bumping inorder to explain all the bad turns I'm reading after saying "I love you".