Re: To name or not to name that is the question!
 

Yes, please let the PNMs make their own decisions regarding "To name or not to name." I would hope that you would have enough courtesy to not try and pry out information they are not willing to share.

yay for naming names

...i liked the rush thread last year where pnms would list who the were going back to and then go #1 (as in the first house she went to) was like this....that way we know where they are going to each round but we don't know which is which

It should be up to each PNM what she decides to do.

I would like to know, as the PNM goes into rush, what sororities are represented at her school - but if she's not comfortable sharing that info, that's fine.

I do like the idea of assigning names to the sororities - it's less confusing than numbers. I would only suggest that (1) the names be consistent, and (2) they have nothing to do with the sororities themselves (using colors and calling AEPhi "green", Alpha Phi "bordeaux", etc. would probably be a dead giveaway ;) ). After rush, the PNM can come back (if she wants) and tell us who's who, so we sorority members can learn from our mistakes.

I think this decision should be the PNMs.

Of course when it comes to #s/XYZs, I have always thought the only people on GC that follow, are those who know the campus well. Which, truly does not prevent problems from arising.

I gave names in my cousin's rush thread, but said nothing negative. *I was not very detailed, until JAM asked for "meat," and then I was still respectful!*

I think it should be up the PNMs also, but since they are all reading this anyhow...It is easier to keep track w/either numbers or names (the tree, flower, idea) xyz, def, abc, get too confusing.

just my 2c

Yes, we like hearing about our chapters. Even if it's not positive, I like hearing what rushees thought of ASA because maybe we can take something from it. But then again, there haven't been a lot of stories with my group in them so I'm probably not the best person to ask.

These stories are for the rushees, to get their feelings out, to vent, to make sense of what is happening. I think we should respect their privacy.

That being said, bag the numbers and use things like names of candy, stores at the mall, music groups etc. Although make sure they don't correlate in any way - i.e. don't use peppermint sticks to refer to the red & white ASA's or XO's.

I'll chime in and agree that it's up the PNM.

I personally have no problem if a PNM would say mean, negative things about my group. Yes, sometimes it hurts my feelings, but the only person it's *really* going to hurt in the end is the PNM.

If we play nice, names should be ok.

As a PNM who does have an active sister at her university on GC, I am very torn about posting names or not. I'm not one to go bashing something to shreds just cause I didn't like their party, but I don't want to be responsible for any hurt feelings, or being cut for something I posted. I was going to do the numbers/code name thing, but in another thread, the sister I'm reffering to requested that I use names. I have not met her, have not posted my pic, and don't have an unusual name, so it might be fairly safe. I will probably post names when describing the party, but will be non-specific when reffering to reasons I will cut a house or other situations I need help with. For example:

Pi Phi: Their house was great and the girls were really friendly. The had a cool theme, disco, and the girl who rushed me made me feel very comfortable. Blah blah blah...

Alpha Phi: This house is HUGE and very pretty. All the sisters were really excited and friendly. I liked their theme and they had all these great pics out of their events and activities. They answered all my questions and seemed very involved in their sister hood. Blah blah blah...

Some of the girls at a house seemed a little stand-offish. They asked some weird questions, and I don't think they liked my answers. At another house, all the girls looked exactly the same, and I'm not talking about their outfits. I don't think I will be dyeing my hair blonde, so that house is probably out. Blah blah blah...

Next round I am keeping AXO, Alpha Phi, GPhiB, & KKG

Again, this is only an example.
There are 12 houses participating in formal rush at my school. It would be less confusing for the reader AND me if I use their actual names. You can keep things fairly general and still descriptive and not hurt anyone (especially yourself) if you use names in some parts and save anonymity for specific complaints.

Just my $0.02

Regardless of what we all "vote" for, the ladies who are on GC that are going through recruitment this year have minds of their own and are going to do what feels right for them. I am giving these women the benefit of the doubt on what is appropriate and inappropriate to post about their experience.

I understand that this post was supposed to let them know that we are either ok or not ok with them naming names, but we are all adults here(hopefully) and as such adults can make their own decisions. :)

PNMs, please do what is most comfortable for you! Remember, we'll be reading your stories whether you use numbers, candies, trees, cookies, mathematical formulas or psychological theories to name the groups! We just want you to have the time of your lives, make some new friends and find a home of your own during your recruitment.

i am not naming names for my rush thread. for one, there is more excitment in reading it. also, there are only three sororities on my campus so there will be no confusion. besides, i think it is more respectful and you can be a little more open with your feelings.

I can see it now: "I had the best convos at the Euler's Formula house, but the Maxwell's Equations skit sucked..."

:D

LoL aephi alum!

Umm.. please don't use mathematical formulas.. then I will *really* be lost :confused: :p

Oh, I hope the pnms list the houses at their school! In alphabetical order, of course, but still, I like to see which sororities are involved.

I really don't see why this is our decision. Of course, like on anything else the PNMs may appreciate our input, since we've been there before, but we're resources, not dictators.

Unless, of course, you're rushing somewhere with four chapters, in which case I insist you use the Hogswarts' houses!