I disagree. I think cattiness is an insecure girl's trait. If you're secure in your own self-worth, then you don't have any reason to be catty toward anyone else.

And if you're being hated on - shake the haters off! ;)

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My chapter really enjoys when other sororities come to our meetings and sing us songs, much more than treats. But still, ice cream and cookies are always welcome.:cool:

Dah, maybe they had a better Idea?

PM_Mama, I kind of find your post disgusting with all Of the "S**T".:(

Therre is enuff infighthing that goes on so why dont ALL get head out of ASS!:eek:

This is what gets us all in trouble! Get It?:confused:

Well it was insulting b/c the group was purposefully mean to us in more ways than one. I just suppose you'll have to take my word on it. I honestly don't think their rep was bad among the frats. Sorry for offending with my post...

There are a few girls who talk trash in every chapter up here (including my own), although I've never heard any about my sorority. The Greek system up here has historically not been very "Panhellenic" and so there is some rivalry between the groups. However, the younger girls coming into the system are generally less likely to be catty about other groups (at least in my sorority) and I hope this is a trend that sticks. I really hate hearing one sorority talk bad about another, no matter which sorority is on the receiving end. I can think of something bad about every sorority (including my own) and something good about every sorority (including our "rivals"), but I'd rather focus on the good.

That's so true about your system...I have heard so much trash talk from girls in it, and it's always about another sorority I have friends in!

Our system is horribly catty. One of the locals accused us of "stealing" SigEp from them. :rolleyes: It got to the point where, when I was still pledging, I was over at the SigEp house WITH MY BOYFRIEND and was asked to leave "because Gamma Phis aren't welcome here" by one of their pledges. Probably not. :p It got into a big competition with the organizational webpages...The other local says founded in 1991 (or whenever) but the one that tried to kick me out said "oldest sorority founded on this campus" or some BS like that to sound older than us. Our description now says "Founded as a local sorority in 1867, one year after the university founded, we were selected to become a Gamma Phi Beta chapter in 1969." I am not going to miss that isht at all..

Marquette seems to be relatively Panhellenic, although a girl in one house didn't believe me that Gamma Phi Beta was NPC. I asked her what sorority the Greek advisor was in (the GA is my chapter sister) and once she found out, instead of apologizing, she said "Oh, well, whatever, your chapter here closed." Yeah, I know, otherwise I would have affiliated.

That is one of the reasons that I think the younger girls are less likely to talk trash -- they all have friends in other chapters! I think that almost everybody in my pledge class had a friend who was a Theta or a Kappa or a Chi O or an AEPhi or in another sorority . . . so we knew that the trash talking wasn't true and because of that, we were less likely to do it. The older girls, for whatever reason, seemed more isolated within the system and this increased the rivalry.

Either way, it makes me uncomfortable to hear the girls talk bad about other sororities.

Wisconsin's sort of going through a "revival" of its Greek system right now (getting a second Greek advisor, working on a new risk management program, working on new philanthropy requirements) and I think that Greek unity is increasing a little bit, which would be great.

meridionaleDG, I emailed her,she's in GA for the summer and I RARELY get to talk to her due to her job.

Got your e-mail and will send a "thoughtful" response. That takes me time at one sitting!

This just reminded me of somehting from Rush two years ago.....

The day after Bid Day, we were hanging out with our new members around the house. We were just chatting about Rush and one girl was like, "XYZ was so mean. I just hated them."
XYZ lives across the street from us and we don't have very good relations w/them.
I go, "Why? What happened"
"Well,"she said, "they asked me what I liked about Rush, and then out of nowhere they said that the house across the street plants fake flowers in front of their house b/c they can't afford real ones."

Does that even make any sense???? We can't afford real flowers so we spend $$$$$ on expensive fake ones to plant?? WTF???? And why in the hell would you say something like that during Rush???? bitches......

Hahahahahah!!!! If they would have said that to me I would have probably said, "Wow, thanks for sharing that, when I am trying to think of which sorority I would rather join the fake flowers will definitly come into mind!"

Y'all should create some sappy thing to tell them - "Like true sisterhood, our flowers will never die!" Then they can vomit all over themselves!! ;)

That's too cute :)

Girls are catty, they always will be :) As someone else said, it's only because they want what they don't have and they're jealous, so take it as a compliment. Besides, putting down one group probably makes them feel as if they aren't at the bottom.

MeridionaleDG-

I HEAR YOU! I am a new member in Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc., and I can't begin to tell you how many people have been like EWWWW why did you go Zeta? When I tell people that I'm in a sorority, the first 2 things that come out of their mouth are: Are you an AKA or a Delta. When I tell them that I'm a Zeta, they look at me like I just sprouted horns! Then I just smile...

If you hadn't said anything about what org you were in, those girls would have probably kept trashing your org, and personally, I feel that when someone trashes your org, they are trashing you, so I don't blame you in feeling some kind of way about their reaction.

First, soror, let me congratulate you on reaching Zetadom!

As a piggyback to your post, do you remember a book that came out a few years ago called "The BAP's Handbook" or something like that? Anyhow, the book said more or less that for a true BAP, the only way to go was AKA or DST. Let me tell you, our sorors and our SGRho sistahfriends flooded the authors' guestbook with comments! They ended up posting an apology ...

The kicker was that only one or two of the authors in a sorority at all!

*BTW, BAP is an acronym for Black American Princess.

hee hee, I did not know of this book, so I looked it up on Amazon..here it is:
"The Bap Handbook: The Official Guide to the Black American Princess - by Kalyn Johnson (Editor), Tracey Lewis, Karla Lightfoot, Ginger Wilson (Illustrator)"

I like the cover actually....but then I like PINK!!