They think your chapter is geeky, which means that they don't really want to hang out with you and they don't think enough of you as men to have some healthy respect/fear.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but someone should call it straight.

Now . . . by all means bring it up in the party. I wouldn't let them know you are displeased per se, thats kind of girly. i would just tell it like it is.

Pull one aside, preferably the president, and just say:

"Look bro, this is going to come out wrong, but what the fuck??

Are you really so unbrotherly that you are going to come over and play and not even invite us?

Don't you think you should kiss us, get us in the mood before you fuck us? A little foreplay is nice don't you think?

Now are you going to start including us in these little adventures or what?

(if he blows you off lose your temper) (if he gives you some: "yeah dude that sounds cool" you need to close the deal.)

DEAL CLOSING

"Thanks bro, but listen, if you come so much as one more time without telling us and including us in advance, thats going to be it.

I don't care if the rest of the chapter is cool with it.

I don't look like your bitch do I??

If I have to go it alone I will go to the campus admin. I will go to campus security if I have to.

Are we clear??"

(it will be helpful if you seem a little scary and hot around the collar.)

Or conversely you could pay me to come out there and do it for you. I'll do it for expenses only lol. Just pay the airfare and gimme a place to crash . . oh and feed me and supply me with some women. I guarentee they will respect you afterwards.

Good luck!

OK, I am actually just sitting here, mouth agape, that they would have the balls, the gall, the NERVE to do that!!! Definitely get in touch with not only the president, but does your fraternity have a regional collegiate rep? Cuz his ass needs to be called PRONTO!

James,

Let me explain something about SDSU and UCSD.

NOBODY at UCSD thinks ANYONE at SDSU as geeky.
The general consensus at UCSD is "I should have gone to State. I'm surrounded by pail geeks that study all the time. All the hotties and parties are at State. Damn my 4.0!"

So I'm sticking to my schedule conflict and phone tag theory. And considering the overall apathy of the chapter it's probaly one sided phone tag.


I again point out that the odds are practically nil that any parties are happening on either SDSU or UCSD property. So any admin or security aren't going to give a damn. Everyone's covered by their National's insurance so there's no extra risk with partying from someone that doesn't live on your block.

I think Stan has every right to be annoyed by this. And I think his chapter should bring it up to the other chapter. But I still say the social chairs and, if there's one, the broterhood chairs need to get off their ass and plan something.

Well, in theory, if all your chapter does is party, and get wasted and such, just like the Omegas thought the Deltas were tools in Animal House, maybe they think the same of us? That might be a factor, but when your chapter doesn't care to change it, that's the way it's always gonna be.