I have a mature personality by nature...

But as far as my anger-management...It depends on WHO makes me angry.

i.e. I will argue with my man, profusely... but at some point (anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour) into the "discussion" I can stop -- regroup and then resolve (if he's willing) the issue. That process used to take anywhere from a day to a week to a month, depending on the issue... Ugggghh

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when ANYONE ELSE pisses me off... I don't have to say, do, respond very much b/c 2 minutes later I usually dont care... I can even continue to deal with idiots in "close" situations... and they may know they irritate me, but they can still trust/work with me. I can remain a pleasant person. People apologize to me a lot when they do piss me off because I continue to be nice to them.

IMHO I am less mature with my man b/c I am still working on my relationship management skills... It's like dayuuuum, I almost expect other people to be stupid asses, but I chose to "date" you b/c I felt you were on a different plane... but people are going to be people. I know I have no right to expect near-perfection from him, hell I can't provie that!!

But I would say I am fair to middlin' concerning my anger-management maturity 'cept with my man.

I didn't get upset in the past week.

The last time I did was because of the actions of someone else. I try to deal with issues in a methodical manner.

When something that is not really important to me gets me upset, I try to forget about it. It's not worth the energy. For example, the head of the PhD programs keeps asking me personal questions and keeps hinting at what her expectations of me are (and that I am not living up to them). I got upset about it, but couldn't do anything about it. Besides, she's bitter, has no life, and pisses everyone off. Plus, my advisor (chair of the dept.) supports me. I'm at a point in the program where she has no power over what I do next. She's inconsequential, so I let it go.

When something that is important gets me upset, I try to work through it without letting my emotions take over. I've realized that reacting to something out of anger often leads to more problems.

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I'm doing a really good job of managing my anger. In that respect, I feel that I am maturing. However, people and their horrible driving were pissing me off.

I agree with that, and new noisy neighbors really pressed my immaturity button this weekend! So there is room for growth-even though I held back from confronting them in person! and let my landlord deal with them:mad: