true, but do you believe that people should HAVE to have locks on their bedroom doors?? i think not

Update - - Daisy II
 

Well... All of a sudden there's more going on with Daisy...

Long story short, Daisy has been out of town for the holidays. Her TV has a stupid timer on it that turns on and off whenever it wants to.. Well her tv turned on while she was gone and we called her to see if we could go in and turn it off (I have a key to her room) and she said yes...So before all this is said, YES, we had permission to be in her room.

That said, these are somethings we saw/found in her room:

*A friend of mine's paycheck that I had been holding for her (that I thought I had lost) that had been opened.

*A notebook of mine

*Another roommate's team sport schedule, itinerary, and phone list (with names, addresses, phone numbers, emails, etc)

*The aforementioned roommate's diary

*Another roommates pictures that Daisy had taken out of her photo album

*Other people's mail that she had opened, all of which were people that lived here like last year that don't live here now but still come over because they're friends (might I add - - One of them was a pre-approved cell phone..One was something that looked like a check when it was in the envelope..And one of them was a packet from Kay jewelers...)

And last but certainly NOT least...

*This stankin' bitch had a pair of MY underwear on her dresser... And not only were they mine, they were from my dirty clothes pile.. That's right, she had a pair of my DIRTY underwear on her dresser... Is that not sickening?


Well, needless to say, we've had enough. Especially since my rent is going to be late this month because she wrote me a bad check that made me bounce one of my checks. All this isn't even touching on the fact that we have to deal with collection agencies and businesses and people coming to the house for her for all the bad checks she's written (I'll just say twelve thousand dollars) and we're sick of having to deal with it. All that said, I didn't even mention the fact that she wont clean her bedroom and it is currently violating multiple terms of our lease agreement and state health and sanitary codes.

We're all having a house meeting tonight (without her) and we're definately going to confront her. I guess my question is, do you guys have ANY suggestions as to how we should do it? Confront her about the stuff of ours in her room?? Wait and clean the house and then call the landlords to see her room and get her kicked out that way?? I've even been told that we should make and anonymous phone call from a pay phone to the cops to tell them about the bad checks.. I don't know, we don't know, what we should do!!

Again, HELP!!!!!

Give her a taste of her own medicine
 

Start ganking her sh*t.

Sorry to hear this. :(

Most importantly, document *everything*. Take lots of pictures. Keep everything someplace she can't get at it (a friend's house, a safe deposit box, whatever).

You do need to find a way to get her evicted. The only things I can think of offhand are either to get the police involved (not sure if they can help, but maybe they can charge her with theft/larceny) or to document the condition of her room and bring in the landlord and the health inspector (particularly if there are vermin - if you do that, though, document the clean condition of the rest of the house so it's clear that it's just her).

Do you think she may become violent if confronted? If so, you'll want to talk to her in a public place - and in any case, it should be all of you, not just one of you.

Demand that her next (hopefully final) rent check be a cashier's check or money order, since she's known for writing bad checks.

I don't know if any of this helps, but I hope things work out. Take care. :)

Its so much harder because you are a girl lol.

A guy would be getting his assed kick all over the apartment. In fact he would probably never come back at all if we called him and told him what we found.

Personally I would tell the landlord, call the police and have one come over and document it (without pressing charges) You can file without actually pressing charges you know lol.

And it gives you more credibility.

After you have done that I would call her up and tell her what you have found before she comes home.

The situation going back over the semester makes it seem as if you all have confrontation issue. Meaning you don't like to do it.

If that's true, well you suck lol, but you can always get someone else to do your dirty work for you and call and deal with her even in person.

But honestly, not only is that the height of bad manners, its shows a great deal of personal cowardice lol.

However, it is more important that you get her out of the house at the moment than you overcome a life issue.

After all, you don't want her to get some strange ideas and start acting out her panty sniffing fantasies on you lol ;).

Although, unfortunately, there is probably a more reasonable answer as to why she possess your filthy undies lol.

Have a Happy New Year!

As far as not having said anything in the past, we didn't have to.. As soon as we started talking freely about it around the house, it all stopped and things were fine for the last two months. Bah!

Well DigitalAngel didn't have evidence like this before. I personally don't like to confront unless I know for sure that someone is doing something wrong, especially in a situation as serious as this.

Filing a complaint with police is a good idea. Do it before she gets back. And I would definitely confront her as a group when she gets back.

Unfortunately Daisy got home about three hours after I posted that... We didn't even have time to talk to all the roommates and seeing what they wanted to do... While I agree filling a police report would've been a great thing to do, it'd be kind of hard to do with her home now. Sucks, but we'll have to move one. I don't remember if I mentioned it before, but I took pictures of her room in case she gets wind of the landlords coming over and decides to clean it for the first, last, and only time.

Re: Give her a taste of her own medicine
 

Boy oh boy would I love to... But I wouldn't to stoop to her level.

Wow, this sounds similar to (but definitely worse then) my situation. I would definitely say that confronting her is a good thing to do. I live with 3 other women, 2 of which are older than me. Meaning I'm 21, and the others are 20, 27, and 36. The 36-year-old is the one we're having problems with! I've always been very nonconfrontational, and telling off someone who's 15 years older than you is really hard to do, but I finally did it. She's done things like eat everyone's food, drink everyone's alcohol... stuff like that. And she's the biggest hypocrite ever because she THOUGHT someone ate one of her nutrigrain bars and she flew off the handle! I had half a bottle of expensive wine left and it mysteriously disappeared. I found it, empty, in her room. I also had a full large bottle of Bacardi Limon, and she drank the whole thing during the course of a weekend. Her idea of replacing it was to give me a bottle of $5 champagne :rolleyes: Since I never see her, I wrote her a short note about it, and she apologized. I'm hoping it never happens again. I'm going to have to confront her AGAIN because she left about 20 dirty glasses on the kitchen counter, and they've been there for 2 days now. It wouldn't bother me as much if she hadn't written a 3-page letter to one of my other roommates for leaving ONE dish in the sink for ONE day. And she's also been kinda weird to this same roommate... See, normal roommate answered the phone one night and it was for weirdo roommate. So normal roommate takes the phone down to weirdo's living area and knocks on the outer door (weirdo has the whole basement to herself). There's no answer so normal roommate slowly goes in, then knocks on weirdo's bedroom door. Weirdo says, "Come in" so normal roommate goes in. There's weirdo with her psycho man she keeps sleeping with off and on, and they are both naked without any blankets or anything on them! Apparently weirdo wanted normal roommate to join them! :eek:

Anyway... I always feel that a person can't be expected to change if you never tell them what's wrong. I've been known to let a lot of stuff slide, because usually it's no big deal and usually doesn't happen very often. But some things ARE a big deal (such as everything your roommate has done) and some things happen way too often. It's at these times a confrontation is necessary. Who knows, maybe she'll be so embarrassed that she'll move out :)

Unfortunately, I had to put a lock on my bedroom door back in 1998, after one of my then-housemates, a 6-2 woman, physically attacked me. I never thought that marijuana and whiskey would make one violent. :rolleyes:

The best I've heard thus far was from a GC sister of mine, but she said it on IM:

And I quote..... "You have a psycho beast living in your house" :D

LOL I agree!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We're interested to see if she comes home at all... She hadn't been home for two days so we called her dad....We talked to him and wouldn't give us the number of where she's at, he said he'd call her and tell her to call here.... Surprise surprise, she hasn't called.... Oh well, if she doesn't come back, I don't know too many people that will miss her....

My former housemates had a problem like this before I moved in. They called the landlord and her parents, and she was moved out immediately. They threatened to press charges. A landlord has a responsibility to keep the tennants safe and free from crime. In this case, that meant eviction for the problem housemate. I think that eviction is the best resolution for your house also.

I'm glad you documented everything! If you make an acusation you can't prove, YOU could be the one to suffer. Honestly, I have NEVER heard of ANYTHING this bad!!!:eek:

All kinds of thought ran through my mind like identity theft fo one.

How old is she? That could have a bearng on her parents' responsibility. WHERE IS GREEKLAWGIRL???

If I were you, I would be kind of scared to be in the same apt. with her. She has some very "disturbing behaviors" that are on a level beyond an average person's ability to deal with. You need some help beyond a little "talk".

JAM, Identity theft is actually something that we've thought off.. I'm acctually getting kind of agitated because when everything happened last Monday, everyone was pissed, but now everyone (except for me) is pretty lax about it.... Oh well, the psycho isn't stealing my life, money, happiness, or belongings any more. Like I said, we called her dad last night and he wouldn't give us the number to where she was at...And she never called....she still hasn't been home yet either....It's nice not having here here, but I almost wish she'd come back already so we could confront her.
:(

Edited to add: She's only 19.....
And she got a credit card in the mail today..great...