The chapters' web sites or FB pages should have information about their events. Or you could ask the Greek Life office.

KSUViolet, she rushed last year at a Big 10 school and was cut by all houses so she re-rushed this fall. I can't tell if she had gotten recs (many people have asked, but she's not answered) and based on recent posts, she didn't get to know any sorority members over the past year so she had no connections for this year.

Here's a link to a thread she posted about whether or not to discuss her first year rushing during this year's rush:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=244101

Here's her post about rushing her freshman year and what happened:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=243578

Yes was dropped by everyone, my campus has between 12-18 chapters, this is my 2nd formal recruitment and my 3rd recruitment in general since I tried informal rush with no such luck as well last year, I think my campus has large chapters theres about 150-200 girls total in each house.

I got some recs for a few houses that I know alumna of, but recs are not a thing at my school. Some girls I rushed with last year told me they got recs to every house on campus and it didn't help them, they still got cut after open house round from those chapters. Some girls I talked to from this past rush told me the same thing of their rec letter experience. The only thing that sometimes helps at my school is being a legacy which I am not unfortunately, since I am the first person in my family whose thought about going Greek.

****Do u have any tips on how to make connections with Greek women at my school?****

Would connections make or break the pnms that get invited back? How do out-of-state women do, who have no connections at their schools get into Greek life?

1. Go up to a chapter house on campus.
2. Knock on the door.
3. When someone answers, say,"Hi. Wanna be friends?"

But seriously, you have been given loads of great advice from others in this thread. We can't hold your hand and make you do this stuff.

As you interacting with people on campus, ask what they are involved in. Share what you are involved in. Notice if someone mentions Greek life. Befriend new people who join the clubs and activities you are already involved in. If you notice someone wearing a t-shirt from a Greek event, comment on the t-shirt and ask about it. Attend open philanthropy events organized by chapters. Go in a group if that makes you more comfortable. Talk to a sister before you leave to let them know you enjoyed the event. If it ties in to a cause you are involved with, that is also a great way to connect with them about the event.

Re: recs: If they are not a thing at your school, it can only help you to stand out in a positive way if you get them from alums.

Also: consider COB if you are able. If that doesn't work out, then realize that Greek life may not be for you. If you do decide to rush during formal again next year, get recs to every house.

All right OP, I'm going to state some things that may come across as harsh. It's not my nature to blow rainbows (as AZ-Alpha Xi and a host of others will attest). It's apparent you are still desiring sorority membership, which truthfully may not be in your life plan at your current campus.

Why? Well, you have had three opportunities at NPC sorority recruitment: two formal and one informal. You've been completely released twice in formal. That's a red flag. A very large red flag, actually. That fact, coupled with all your posts, leads me to surmise that there is something you are not telling us.

Your questions about how to make connections point to a fundamental issue. You're at least 18 or 19 years old and unless you have been living in a remote forest and were raised by a pack of wolves, you should have a good idea of how to network, make social friends, etc. by now. We gave you the best advice we had/have, and you didn't follow it (e.g. "recs aren't a thing at my school"). I pointed you to all the useful recruitment threads last year. There is so much information here on GC (and YouTube) that is helpful. Now you want a recipe on how to make friends with sorority women, ostensibly so you can get a bid. That's not how it works.

So, my Panhell sisters can chastise me for what I'm writing, and I'll take it. I own my words and my behavior. I am responding because I can't see you get hurt again, and I have some ideas as to what your "problem" may be, but as I repeatedly write on GC, I'm not good at speculating. I can't wish you good luck again until I get to the bottom of this.

Tough love, well said. Something definitely seems odd given the number of times the OP rushed and that she was cut by every house each time.

My mama always taught me that when something doesn't make sense, something is missing. That "something" is usually the truth.

midwesterng!rl2 I am certain that you KNOW the answer, but have chosen not to share it with us. We cannot possibly give any advice that will help without knowing all of the information. I think it is time to move on.

Just another thought - look at the other women who were totally released? Is there a common denominator? Probably....

And remember, OP already belongs to at least three other campus groups that take time away from time she would need to have for sorority membership.