I don't want a simease twin gf. Sometimes I want to spend time with my brothers. Sometimes she might want to be with friends so I will back off. Also, tommorrow night is brothers and interest guys only. No vaginas allowed.

Carolina DG, I think you made an excellent point! And Kappa Kitty Cat........ that was hilarious :-)

So it sounds like the general consensus is, hang out some, have your time apart some. Right?

I'm really impressed by the responce I got on this thread. thanks, and Keep posting.

I'll keep these things all in mind: not to force her to go greek, to ensure she has a life outside of my frat-house, and to keep my "bro's before ho's" (as derogatory as it sounds, it means well), and to watch out to make sure she's not staring down any other girls down who stop by the house.


I really like her and I hope this really lasts.

What happens to those joined-at-the-hip couples after they graduate? Most seem too unhealthy to stay together after college. I'm a senior now, and am wondering what will happen to my friends in psycho relationships.

Oh yeah...the subject at hand. Mr. Munchkin03 is independent, and pretty anti-Greek. He's definitely supportive of what we do as far as my offices and community service stuff (and he lifts things! Woo hoo!) and he's my date when he can be (we're LDR, so it takes a lot of orchestration to do that). Other than that, he definitely WON'T be a "house boyfriend", which is fine with me. The rest of the girls in the house, when they're dating, almost always date athletes--and Mr. Munchkin03 definitely IS NOT the athlete type. I can't imagine him sitting among wrestlers and football players. So, it works out just fine for us.

A little reminder: lighthearted renditions of "bros before hoes" will probably get you a sexless weekend from the girlfriend.

:D

A little reminder: lighthearted renditions of "chicks before dicks" will probably get you a sexless weekend from the boyfriend. :p

I'm a firm believer that guys may come and go, but your best friends will always be there. Let me just repeat my own experience: it was with my first love. I ditched all my friends to be with him. My life revolved around him. It was truly pathetic. When we broke up, no one was there. My 2 best friends came back, of course, but I did have to apologize and put up with some guilt.

Now, with Mr. ChiOJenn, I am all about having my own life. We have our own set of friends-but are cool with each others as well-and we do our own thing, as well as have couple time. I want to go to happy hour with the girls? No problem-I go. He wants to go out with his guy friends? Works for me. And of course, we have our "couple time" as well. I would never go back to the idiot I was being back then.:rolleyes:

So, I'm a big advocate for people having thier own lives.

*cough* Don't you mean sexless for maybe an hour? :p Teehee :)


But on this subject...
Personally, it has never affected me and my frat boy. :) I do my thing, he does his thing. Before I even met him I was best friends w/one of his brothers so he could never say that I tried to take him away from his fraternity. :) Also, I met him after he was already in and it was during rush season so, even then I was used to him being off and w/his bro's. I figure as long as the 'girlfriend' understands he has a life of his own before she came along and so did she then they'll be good. Just watch out for those psychos! :p

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For those joined at the hip couples: http://www.plaudersmilies.de/scatter.gif
Moral of the story: be your own person!

5 years and running
 

OK. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and running. (Since our Freshman year of high school) To be honest when he first joined his Fraternity (Sig Ep) I was that joined at the hip girl friend who stared down any and every girl who approached my boyfriend. That lasted for about a month before we realized that would ruin our relationship fast. Now we both have our seperate lives. He does his thing and I do mine, but we still spend a lot of time together. I even let him go to their parties alone. So he can spend time with his brothers without worrying about me. When I do go to their parties or events I don't stay by his side all night I love all of his brothers and their girlfriends so I generally make my way around the room all night talking to people. My boyfriend says that all the guys think I'm the perfect girlfriend because I let him have his time with them. I've even had some come up to me and ask me to talk to their girlfriends ( the ones that NEVER leave the house.) I chose not to join a social sorority for the moment though. I'm involved with a Service sorority that has about 70 girls in it. The majority of my sisters hang out with the Sig Ep's so it ended up working out really well for me. :)

I think it's awesome that so many couples find ways of making things work out perfectly. I guess it just goes to say there's as many ways of making things work as there are couples, huh?

I found that a lot of sisters who were dating frat guys were never happy because of all the drama when he hung out with another sorority. I swear the biggest problems with the other sororities had to do with "I heard you hooked up with my boyfriend at a XYZ-ABC mixer". But then again looking back I think a lot of these people also had serious self-esteem issues. Some of the frat guys weren't too nice anyways, being all lovey-dovey to their sorority girlfriend during the day and at night when they had an event with my GLO they'd be like "girlfriend who?!" and try to be all over us. Then they'd head out after the event to go hang with their girlfriend from the other GLO. You know what though, who in college, fraternity, sorority or not, is really ready for a serious relationship? I know some people are, and it can work, but at 18-21 you are still trying to figure out yourself so it makes it much more difficult to think about settling down with someone at that age. Am I going off topic a bit? I apologize. I am at work and a bit drained.

Oh yeah, I also wanted to add in defense of the "frat boys" that "sorority girls" are not always innocent angels either. Oh yeah, I dated a guy all through college that was not in a frat and it was difficult on him being with me because of my choice. It's fun dating frat guys though because of the common bond of Greek life. I still am friends with on of my ex's who is a TKE from New Paltz.

my best friend dates a fraternity brother at my school and we never ever see her. shes always with him, but it was understandable bc he was graduating. but there would be another chick that would cheat on her boyfriend who is also in fraternity with another guy and the drama ensues. like in any other relationship. what i hate the most are the freshman girls(no offense to any out there) that chase after the brothers then cling on them like lost puppies and sucking out their life bc theyre not allowed to talk to anyone but them. it blows, i was friends with a guy until his leech girlfriend appeared.
but anyways, i think the main problem with greek love is the fact that everyone will be in your business. i dont know if its like that in other schools but i know at my school, if you do something one day everyone in the whole entire greek community will find out the next day.

I so whole-heartedly agree with this statement. I've been part of the Greek system for a while now and that entire time, I have never so much as kissed a boy who was in a fraternity. The Greek community is relatively small and _very_ communicative. Every time I've had a discussion with friends as to why I don't date a fraternity gentleman, I refer to the point that his brothers don't need to know what we did, who in turn will tell their friends in the rest of the Greek community, and I'll end up getting a comment from a random acquaintance about my actions with the gentlemen in question. In other words, I don't need y'all in my business.