I've heard of at least one chapter where the women lavalier their boyfriends! Anyone else ever hear of that?

One of my sisters had a non-Greek boyfriend who she lavaliered. He was practically a sister as it was, as well as being good friends with our sweetheart, so everyone was cool with it.

There was a woman on my campus who was in a different sorority who lavaliered her independent boyfriend. We all thought it was kind of weird that he would want to wear her letters, but whatever.

As for the pinning/lavaliering ceremonies, all the ones I've been to (including my own ;)) involved a few of the brothers and sisters that the pair was close to making speeches and then the couple could make speeches. Then the brothers would all serenade the woman and give her flowers. Sometimes the couple would exchange small gifts or write poems or songs for each other, too. So cute! :)

He probably wanted to wear them for the same reason that some girls want to wear their guys' letters.

Greek SC:

It seems like on campus laveliering has a differnt standing of importance, on my campus (both grad and undergrad) you laveilered someone to show the seriousness of your relationship. It was like the first step, the process went:

Lavelier
Pinned
Engagement

Lavaliering has always been considered a pretty big deal on our campus. A lot of the fraternities have rules about how long you have to have been together and all that sort of stuff, and they all have some sort of ceremony they do when a guy lavaliers a girl, usually some sort of congrats to the girl and then throwing the guy in the river. I can only think of one fraternity on campus that I've heard is allowed to lavalier more than once.

One of my sisters was lavaliered twice, by two different houses. She's engaged to the guy who lavaliered her most recently (miss you, Kristi!).

I lavaliered my boyfriend my sophomore year. We were pretty serious at the time, but, hey, some things don't work out. He didn't wear shirts with my letters on them, but he did wear a necklace (although he told me that the president of his house told him he wasn't allowed to wear my letters since he was still a pledge and hadn't earned his letters yet - is this true?). He had also let me wear his shirts when we were just hanging around his room, which he wasn't supposed to do.

I have never heard of anyone on our campus getting pinned. As far as I know, lavaliering is usually considered either serious relationship or a pre-engagement, but I haven't heard of anyone doing anymore.

My current boyfriend is independent and he made me a GDI lavalier and gave it to me just before my formal last year. It was so sweet and because he made it and everything, I think it meant a lot more than any lavalier I almost got from a Greek house!

One thing, too, that i think is pretty cute. When my parents got engaged, my mom's chapter gave my dad a sweatshirt with her letters on it. There's this picture of the two of them with my dad rocking KD letters! It is too cute!

On our campus, it goes:
Lavaliering
Engagement

We don't have pinning.

I was lavaliered back in February by my boyfriend (Kappa Sig). :D

Pinning doesn't happen at my school either. Maybe its a southern thing or a smaller school thing.

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At my campus, 2 of the frats did pinning, but did it like it meant nothing in the world...

Lavaliering was the big deal. My boyfriend and I started dating our senior year in high school, and he lavaliered me our senior year in college. He gave me a promise ring first, then about a year later, the lavalier. Engagement shortly followed.

It's true that it's a huge deal for a sorority girl to be lavaliered. We kept it a big secret until we had a chapter meeting, then did the candle passing.

My now husband, he was a Sigma Pi. I'm going to PM you the specifics of what they did "for" him. . . It's something where you're not supposed to know what they do unless it's been done to your man! I was also told that the reason the Sigma Pi's there didn't pin girls, was that nationals strongly discourage it. They were the grand sage chapter 6 out of 8 years immediately before / during / after we were there, so they did things really by the book. . .

Melissa
KD-Alpha Psi
Drury

For my chapter, lavaliering is a huge deal. Many of us don't have our badges, so pinning isn't as much a practical option.

Guys who have lavaliered have made huge deals of it - productions that made every girl in the place cry. It's reserved for serious girlfriends; kinda a precursor to engagement.

It usually happens once a year for us, although it hasn't in the past couple of years.

Collin

Why don't you have your badges, if you don't mind my asking?

He probably meant they don't keep their pledge badges. We didn't get to keep ours either.

My boyfriend's a Kappa Sig... oh man. Am I a complete nerd to say I'd LOVE to be lavilered? I remember some of our girls laughing when an older sister got lavilered by her longtime Delta Chi boyfriend. They were like, it's so old fashioned! Maybe so..... but sweet all the same, don't you think?

First of all, I must say that Delt boys are the best... my boyfriend's a Delt (if you couldn't tell) and I love every single one of his bros!

Second, I've heard mixed stories on this one: is there a formal ceremony that Delta Tau Delta does in order to lavalier or pin a woman? My bf and his bros have argued on and on about this and they don't think there's a ceremony, but another girl from GC said that there is, and there's even a chapter that has a website that explains the ceremony (even though it's pretty much informal and subject to interpretation). If you want to see it, go to my post about lavaliering on the Delta Tau Delta forum on GC. It's in there somewhere!

*sigh* I wish the school that my boyfriend & I went to did the whole lavelier thing. He had no idea it even existed. It must be so romantic. http://64.207.13.28/mysmilies/otn/love/1luvu.gif

So how exactly does it work? How do you receive your lavalieres? Are your bros supposed to help out with it at all? I woud like to lavaliere my girlfriend, but it's a tradition that has been long lost at my school. Any further info would be great.