Quick question-

I know that rec letters get your foot in the door, and a lot of times will get you invited to at least round 2. However, I was wondering if having a rec could help out in one of those down to the wire type of decisions. For example... if two girls rushing both were "five star girls", right down to the polish on their toesies, and a decision had to be made, would the girl with a recommendation letter get the bid? Just curious...

Molly

Not being a girl I could never Rush sororities, much as I believe I would have been an awesome sorority member http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I would have loved http://boards.elitefitness.com/forum...ety[1].gif to live in the house and attend sleep overs, pillow fights, and pajama parties (that is what we guys assume you ladies do when you get together, so please don't spoil it) http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif Hmmm, sorry my mind was kind of wandering with that vision . . .

However, for all the people that may be a little taken aback by advice consider what people are really saying:

The interview analogy is very valid. The first rule is don't dress in a way that takes away from yourself. Clean and neat are the basic rules of thumb.

Remember that you don't know these people, so they won't know how cool you are really. So the trick is not act or dress in a way that fits a negative stereotype.

Its not that people are being shallow per se, but people tend to pick something and identify you with it. Especially if they don't know you. And most of the girls won't meet you at all.

So PNM 1 becomes the girl with the red hair that smiled all the time . . . to the girls that just remember seeing her.

Lets say PNM 2 talks with a sorority girl and really hits it off with her . . . but it might not do much good for the girls that didn't meet her to be referring her to as, oh the girl with the dirty fingernails! Or the girl who's breasts were falling out. They aren't being mean really (most people are only truly mean to people they know) its just an identifying characteristic.

Plus when someone is being disqualified for something, its not necessarily dirty fingernails . . . but if you can only take one out of three girls in front of you, and each girl has someone who met them and liked them, but one is remembered for some negative thing that stood out, I am sure its going to decrease her overall chances in a vote: by comparison to the others who seemed equally nice and cool, but the Chapter can only take one girl . . .

As far as people over whelming with specifics. They are just responding to people's desire for very direct directions. For some people you can say, formal, or clean and neat and everything will take care of itself. Some people are mosre comfy with the idea of knowing the best color, or fashion combination. For guys even, formal could mean sports jacket and slacks, suit and tie, or tuxedo.

James it does sound like you would be an awesome sorority member. our sleepovers are fun!!! LOL- too bad you can't join in.
I think that basically it comes down to the point where girls either hit it off or don't hit it off. Look nice, but not overdone. Be interested, but not overeager. Don't put our house down. I know that my sorority sisters had an experience, when I rushed, where one rushee asked if she joined our house we could change our mascot. That is not good to say. Our mascot is a symbol of pride to us so if you don't like it too bad. Girls you all sound so nervous- please get some tums or something. RUSH IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. Remeber you are all phenomenal women- read the poem by Ms. Angelou.

James--

I would like to take this moment to emphasize that sorority women most assuredly do not have pillow fights in their underwear, Revenge of the Nerds style!

Most of the time us sorority girls wake up on the weekends around noon and wear our pj's- baggy sweatshirts and some drawstring pj pants, maybe a t-shirt once in ahwile.

It's not that you'll get cut because you have dirty nails. You'll get cut if that's the one thing that stood out about you!

Ladies, imho, just file your nail so that they're not jagged and throw on a coat of clear/clear glitter and leave it at that. But if you're like me, and start messing w/ your cuticles when your nervous,(ewww http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/redface.gif ) just get some gel overlays a week before rush. Then you nails will look FAB! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

ps If you're obsessing about your nails. Just about every other single thing we have mentioned is more important. Take a deep breath and RELAX!

I can't register posts that ruin adolescent fantasies http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

LOL James if it makes you feel better I really DID have a pillow fight with a fellow sister. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif

James,

Don't worry---None of us want to ruin your fantasies. Feel free to continue to believe that we all have pillow fights in PJ's!!! However, we also spend time doing our hair and nails while talking about boys.

Moving on...I also have some swamp land in Florida for sale.

:-)