You didnt stick around for the entire date? Does that mean he brought up bondage at the start of the date?

1. Smokers
2. Women that are more manly than I am
3. People that are not intuned to current issues in the world
4. One worders ( people that answer questions with one word or a short phrase.)

~ guys who think kissing is no big deal -- why not kiss every girl you come across? not like it's SEX.......

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Kissing really is no big deal. And sex is only a big deal if it involves dinner before...if it doesn't, then really it's not big deal.

-Rudey

Gahhhh! Sex is a HUGE deal! At least to me anyway. It's getting NAKED with somebody else -- sharing your BODY with somebody else! You're vulnerable, in so many ways -- emotionally, physically, virally -- aside from every other reason, it'd seem to me that if you don't really know a person you're getting ready to have sex with, you don't really know you're not gonna get anything.

Which is not to say an STD is the end of the world. Just that I'd rather not have one than have one.

And as for kissing --

I agree, it's less of a big deal. Everybody's read that poem that has the line in it, "Kisses aren't promises." But I guess I kind of treat them that way -- there's the implicit implication that you're interested, in the person, in getting to know them more, etc., etc., etc.

Besides. I like boys. I want them to feel like when I kiss them, it's hot stuff. :D

So..... did I just singlehandedly kill this thread?

*Has to have a college education, no buuger flippers.
*Must respect women
*Must have good relations w/ his family
*Can't have missing or gold teeth
*Can't be into devil worship or any other strange crap.

Okay, living in KY I cannot say no to smoking although I prefer not to have it.

I cannot deal with the following:
A Lack of ambition and no clue where a guy is going in life
AMEN to the anal sex thing, I won't even try it, so don't even ask it!
A guy that has no intelligence or common sense (he needs some of each!)
A guy that doesn't care about the way he looks (Hey mom! Look I brought home a slob!)
A person that is racist/sexist (I dated a racist guy for awhile and I couldn't deal with it!)
A person that is homophobic (I have gay guy and girl friends!)
A guy that doesn't like to socialize. He doesn't have to like bars or whatever and he doesn't have to drink, but he has to like to get out some!
A guy that doesn't wear cologne on a first date. You are supposed to try and impress me, cause damnit I am trying to impress you.

I agree with some of the things you all have said, but the number-one thing for me is scrawny guys. I don't find them attractive. Whoever was talking about overweight guys--well, I'd rather date one of those than one who looks like a good breeze could knock him over. I really don't want to offend anyone, especially those guys who are thin by nature, but I tend to go for guys who are a little stockier. If a guy can fit in my pants (I don't mean GET in them, I mean actually wear them), he's not for me.

Hi, I can't find anyone in San Diego with that way of thinking. Where do you live and how long would it take for you to get here?

lol j/k (well about the dating part anyway)

Things that turn me off to potential significant others:

1. Smokers. Of all the filthy, disgusting, inconsiderate, selfish...

*ahem* Excuse me.

2. Homophobia, racism, sexism.

3. Guys who are shorter than I. I can deal with girls who are shorter, but sorry fellas, gotta be taller.

4. Girls who wear makeup all the time. Sorry to all you makeup-wearers, but I read it as insecurity.

5. Lack of curiosity about unfamiliar things. If I'm interested in something and you're interested in me, then you should at least make an attempt to find out about things that I'm interested in. (For example, I hated sports but dated a hockey player... I went to his games to support him and discovered that I really do like hockey.)

Shultzz,
We were in the restaurant for like, um, 5 minutes when he brought that up! You could have knocked me over with a FEATHER! It was so random and SUCH a turn-off. You know the song "Caramel" by City High? Well, just cuz I ain't a virgin don't mean I'm havin sex with ya'! So, my advice to you guys out there...don't bring up bondage (unless she does!)
Blaire

Dealbreakers:
*LYING!!!!

I can excuse everything except for lying, honestly.

Actually, no, I just thought of another one. I was taking a guy home one night, and he was this pretty cute guy that I was kind of interested in, but probably wouldn't have dated anyway b/c one of my sisters had hooked up with him a while before.... anyway, he said to me, "I don't like black people. I just want you to know that right now." He tried to cover himself later on by saying stuff like, "There's a difference between black people and N******, and I don't mind black people." Sorry, hon, doesn't matter. Number one, you said you don't like black people, and number two, you used the "N" word. Good-bye!

He didnt "mind" black people, like he tolerates them. Good job Carolina. He was a loser with a Capital L!

-living with momma-at my age if you date a guy living with his mother then God help you!
-no children
-must like all animals
-must not be allergic to animals
-Some ambition, I don't mind if he doesn't have a college degree but please have a career
-must not do illegal drugs and yes this includes pot
-if he uses the phrases "right on" or "you gotcha"-then he is out of here
-must be taller than me and preferrably over 6'