Unfortunately PNMs have all the Greek basher sites to go to now, which seem to exist more for the negative rather than the positive, bon homie spirit we foster. They are seeking info and have no idea those sites are not reliable.

So I do think that PNMs might be conscience of a perceived "national" rep, as discussed on those sites which truly is in perception only. Some might buy into it. I do think the rep on their local campus ultimately wins out for most because few PNMs Dan see past the first semester of their collegiate career.

[QUOTE=33girl;2405047]FWIW, I've seen some chapters of the groups that are considered "strongest" nationally get HUGE amounts of shit slung at them on reek grank.


Strongly agree. I went to "that" site and was amazed at some of the remarks made by people who seemed to have an obvious agenda. Who has the time to sit down and post the same canned remarks, rumors, innuendo, etc.?

When I rushed, I was clueless about the power of tiers, national perceptions, etc. I joined my group because I felt completely at home and welcomed. After some time, I realized we were considered lower tier and all that went with that on a heavily tiered campus. (I still loved my choice.)

Fast forward a year and a half and I had the opportunity to attend our Centennial Convention. I had NO IDEA Tri Delta was such a strong sorority on a national level. It was eye-opening.

Fast forward a couple of decades later... Do I regret joining Tri Delta? No, I still love my sorority. However...

Tri Delta is not strong where I live. My chapter has closed. There is no alumnae chapter nearby. No collegiate chapter closer than three or four hours. At the same time there are a number of smaller NPC sororities that have a large footprint in this state. I would be lying if I said I didn't wonder at times what it would be like to be in one of the groups that has many members here with lots of opportunities for involvement.

So I'd make the same choice again, but I do still wonder if I might be getting more out of my membership by being in one of those other groups.

Can you be an advisor from afar (for something like finance)? Are there national project committees you can get involved with?

The Internet and Facebook has changed so much...30 years ago I might have only kept in touch with a handful of sisters because life happens. Alumnae chpaters helped to fill that gap. Nowadays I can send a message to literally any of the sisters who were in my chapter when I was.

I did volunteer on the national level for a few years after I graduated. Unfortunately those kinds of positions (like financial) are details and minutia. I can do them, but they suck the life out of me.

Now I have health issues that would make it next to impossible to do any kind of volunteering that required travel. I do keep in touch with many sisters via Facebook and am thankful for that. But I miss things like initiation, Founders Day, etc.