What do I find sexy? A man that knows himself, has ambition, potential to excel and pride in himself. An intelligent, honest, and respectful man with a humble spirit, and a big heart. A good black man that knows that good black women are to be adored, loved, respected and revered. A man that wants to be a king to his queen, settle down, and build a strong family is an absolute turn-on... And last but certainly not least, a man that can make his woman feel safe and secure in his arms, and know from his touch that she is his love...

A Quiet Gentle Inner Christlike Personality
 

Hi Everyone,

Sexiness and holiness sound like opposites in a lot of ways.:p;) :)

Nevertheless, if a lady serves the Lord actively in her daily life through working directly in a ministry in her church and by ardently studying the Word of God privately and publically (through consistent Sunday School and weekly Bible study), then I find that quite attractive (about as close to sexy as I can get...lol).

That inner Godliness will spring to the outer parts of her life in the coolest ways:

She'll dress modestly (i.e. She will not wear anything that will attract attention to herself in an obviously sexual way).

She'll converse genuinely and warmly with anybody and everybody as a habit.

She'll always be generous of her time and abilities by going over an beyond to help friends and strangers even if she never gets a word of thanks from any of them. (She won't think someone owes her something in return for her generosity.)

She'll forgive (and forget) if someone wrongs her, and she will do her best to repair the relationship to best of her abilities without any bitterness or withdrawal.

She'll always force those around her to raise their level of devotion to Christ in every faucet of their lives.

She will speak with wholesomeness. (No cursing. Ew...its hurful when a lady curses. :( )

She will maintain self-control. (i.e. No gluttony. She won't overeat
:( )

She'll will see a man's devotion to Christ as the man point of attraction (not his looks).

Gosh,...that kind a of gentlelady would take a feller's breath away....lol...

Have a great day everyone. :D

Re: A Quiet Gentle Inner Christlike Personality
 

Impressed...

SEXY?
 

I find a woman that is aware of herself mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally to be extremely sexy. When she can discuss current events as well as she can dress; and when she can massage her lover's ego as well as she can his body-THAT'S SEXY!!! I find that a woman that carries herself like a queen-without walking around DEMANDING that people treat her like a queen-THAT'S SEXY!!!

WHAT'S SEXY????

A neat brotha that is spiritually on point! That's SEXY!:)

Frat if I may
 

What I find sexy is a man's character and his inner being.
A man who can have an intelligent conversation is very sexy.
Someone who is kind and giving.
Confidence without conceit.
A man who is in tune with his spritual side.
A man who can be both strong and sensitive.
These qualities make a man sexy to me. :)

I wunda...
 

Ya know Bruhs...

Some of these ladies here listed what they find to be sexy in a man. I wonder if they met a man that possessed these valued behavioral traits but DIDN'T LOOK LIKE "TY", would they give him the time of their day?

Re: I wunda...
 

hmmm Very interesting. I think we Brothers do that all the time. We say we are looking for a woman with Trait A and Trait B but if the sister is not a dime piece we keep it moving.

A woman who can cook (well) and who is strong, independent, and intelligent has an advantage with me. Also I have a soft spot for singers.;)

I SING, I SING, I SING!!!! ;)

That's what I'm talkin' about.:p

Sense of Humor and Self Confidence!

Many WOMEN don't want these so called 'foine' men, if they are just about themselves anyway.

A man that is

(athletic) a.k.a not too pretty or lazy to go out and have fun getting sweaty, dirty, etc outdoors sometimes. Hey I'mma fisherwoman!

(fun) please, if you dont wanna have fun and laugh, joke, enjoy life, leave me the eck alone!

(caring) nothing worse than a man, esp a brotha, that don't give a damn about anyone.

(positive)I love a man that has goals and an overall positive outlook on life. We all know we are gonna die one day, lets not make each day a living hell with someone complaining all the freakin time!

Re: Re: I wunda...
 

I think that women do that too now... our problem as a people is that we say we want one thing, but we will settle for anything that feels good and comes our way.

Re: Re: Re: I wunda...
 

I think that is because we are the now generation. We don't like to see the long term benefits of people. Beauty fades but goodness is forever. I think we need to get back to that level of relationship building.

Sphinxpoet

Wistfully longing....LOL!
 

1) A well-dressed man will make you have daydreams of your entire wedding party! Lately, a bangin' suit sends shivers up/down my spine! Nothing like a well-dressed man...that's sexy!

2) A good-smelling man will make you have daydreams of your wedding night! Lately, my scent of choice has been "Curve for men by Liz Claiborne" OOOHHH LA LA

3) Intelligence is sexy. I want to be able to hold a conversation with you...preferably one that doesn't start off with, "Ay, what yo name is?" All the cologne and dress clothes in the world can't save you if you are stupid.

4) Height. I know some will say that I am discriminating, but I just like a tall, broad man! I am 5'10" myself, and I just want to look up to you.

5) Humility. I think it is sexy when a man realizes that there are times and places where it just is NOT imperative that you have the last word. Deference/Reverance to God, elders, authoritative figures, etc...I love it.

6) Goals/Drive. There is something about having a conversation with a man when he gets this gleam in his eye as he is telling you his masterplan for his life. When he is going on and on about things that are passionate to him and he is actually making moves to make that happen, that's sexy.

I have so many more ideals of sexy, but I guess I will stop now.