It's not soo much that he told me when he was drunk( it was too the point you couldn't understand most of what he was saying), but i was over at his house earlier that afternoon and i asked if everything was otay. he said it was, so i believed him. We ended up hooking up before i went home to get ready. That was one reason it was shitty. It made me feel like i was being used, wouldn't you?

I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt. :(

Binks, if I'm wrong about your description then blow this entire post off!

Binks sees guy-guy sees Binks they watch each other and go out on a date-Hot and heavy...Binks moves in, guy and binks go at it every night for a month, guy gets tired of it and wants his space so in a kind way he says, LETS STILL BE FRIENDS......MAYBE IN THE FUTURE....

This may sound harsh, but I am amazed...James asked an excellent question about amount of time you dated
Well, we dated for a month. we saw each other once a day and i spent the night at his place evey night.

Did you just, move in? Did you even talk about it? Most people need a little breathing room and after one month (if I'm getting you right) it all seems a bit much and the guy was probably feeling smothered. He may have been feelig so guilty about what he wanted/needed to tell you, getting drunk was his way to find the courage........NOT GOOD, but the picture you're painting sounds like to much too soon.

, so i believed him. We ended up hooking up before i went home to get ready. That was one reason it was shitty. It made me feel like i was being used, wouldn't you?

You need to get a handle on your emotions. I think you can figure out the answer to your own question.

I'm really sorry if I'm missing something.

i just want to answer questions that seem to lingering in my mind about the last post. Yes i think things with us went too fast, we both agree on that. I didn't just move in there. I only had one thing there and that was a movie that we watched one night and i forget to take it with me. He was alway asking me to spend the night, not to have sex with him, just cause we both enjoy sleeping/cuddling next to someone. But i didn't spend the night there every night. I was alway telling him to go out with his friend, i just ask that one night or day that we hang out just us and do something fun ( like go to the pool or river). I understand friendships are important and i NEVER asked him or Wanted him to give up going out. I'm not like that! I think he felt guilty cause i can't really drink cause of my illness and it is acting up. Yes that week after the scene at the bar, i called him three times, he never answered. One reason is that my friends who introduced us, were pissed at him and my best friend said something mean to him, cause she and her boyfriend talked him up soo much to me, so i would give him a chance ( my very picky about guys!) She and her boyfriend felt that he made them into liars. My last message, said that i was sorry about my friend being @sses, but i can't control them, they do what they want.( i did tell to behave though) And that i was movin in two weeks and wanted to give him the clothes he gave me. he Never called me back. Well last night i was sleeping it was midnight, and my cell rings, i answer thinking it is one of my friends, but it is him. i didn't realize who it was, i thought is was my friend chris at first. Chad called to see how i was, he found out i had to go into the hospital for the day. He was actually sober. He let me tell him everything i needed to tell him. and he told me everything he was sorry for. He admitted he was a @ss while we dated and that i didn't deserve it. He told me he missed me, he loved me and cared for me, and maybe there was a possible romantic relationship in the far future but he wasn't ready now for anythign serious, with anyone. He asked me if i would consider having a friendship with him right now. I told him i don't know and i would have to think about it. It's not because i have feelings for him, its cause i'm not sure i can be friends with someone who could treat me like he did, and if we did have a friendship things would have to change. I told him i would call him when i was ready to talk to him, and i asked him not to call me. I'm going sisterhood weekend with about 7 of my sisters ( one as a house at the beach) And i will think about it there and get their input( they were my support last week.)
Justamom and anyone who reads this post and wrote, i hope you didn't get the wrong impression of me. I'm not slutty, maybe extremely affectionate and huggable( it was the way i was brought up). I know a lot i wrote was written when i was emotional, and sometimes that isn't the best time to write, but reading the post everyone wrote did helped me think about the situation. Thanks! I will keep you posted about stuff, i would love to hear what you think

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