I said Great Eight because that is what I said in my originalmessage. I don't know much about them- I DID TRY TO INFORM MYSELF ABOUT THIS ORG. But the information I found in the book THE DIVINE was not of much help- I have other reasons. E-mail private if you want- I do not disrespect Iotas, but I amsooo used to say Great Eights- When I was on, I HAD to learn info about everybody else, meaning Great 8. Also, since I do not know any Iotas, I do not have a particular image of them- Saw many of them in Philly- But I am not impressed enough to want my child to pursue it.
I seriouly apologize if I have disrespected anyone- If anyone can share some knowledge- Please do so.
Peace

Legacy>Well of course, I would want my child to follow in my footsteps. However, if they decide to go another way, even after I brainwash them ( http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gifjoke!), then who am I to object?

GFK>Iota Phi Theta's website has the basic info on them. I went there and thought it was pretty informative. The address is http://wwww.iotaphitheta.org

As long as my children go greek they can join any organization that they want to. Although organizations are different they all strive to create a better person. The important thing is that they go greek.

Wonder,

If your children don't want to or just don't go greek will this sadden or dissapoint you?

SoCal girl, I respect your feelings, but I am confused about a part of your quote.

My original quote:

I will respect my child's wishes in whatever organization she chooses and support her. I would want her to someday be my soror because it is something that is in her heart rather than something she feels I forced her to do.


[QUOTE]Originally posted by SoCalGirl:

Hopefully I'll be close enough to them that I don't feel like I NEED to be her "sister" to be connected and close.

Were you just speaking personally, or in reference to what we have stated?
My terminology of "soror" was used in reference to her someday joining my sorority. It made no mention of needing her to be a soror to be connected and close nor did any of the other replies. I should hope that parents and their children already have a special bond.



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Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised... Proverbs 31:29-30

I would strongly urge my son (nephew, grandson, cousin, etc.) to join a fraternity, as I feel it's one of the best decisions I ever made. However, I would want him to pledge the fraternity that he likes the best and is most comfortable with. That does not necessarily have to be my chapter. For example, if he went to a school where the chapter of my fraternity was not very good--low membership, low grades, etc.--then of course I wouldn't push him to join there.

SoCal, I know exactly what you mean! I would want my daughter (if I ever have one) to go Greek - but I almost would rather she went to a campus where my org was not, so there wouldn't be any pressure, from me or from the chapter there.
A girl in our chapter pledged because her mom was a sister. She's a nice girl and I'm glad she's part of us, but sometimes I just wish I could feel a little more like it was totally her decision. Her mom really seemed to push it. I guess I could be judgemental about that, but the thing is, I think it would be hard NOT to do even if you tried.

What is the "great eight"? Just curious.

DCGirl>The Great Eight refers to the 8 traditional organizations that used to compose the NPHC. In 1996 another organization was added and now the term used is the Divine Nine. For more info on these 9 check out: http://www.nphc.org

ZetaAce



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SoCal: being a legacy doesn't necessarily mean that ur in. not all orgs have that policy. and those that do can decide whether or not they want it to be known.

I'd be so happy if one of my sisters chose to persue my sorority...but they're not interested in ANY sorority. I don't believe in pushing Delta on anybody...It's something you have to want for yourself. As far as my future offspring are concerned I'd be supportive of any decision they make.

I'm starting to feel a little woozy as I sit here, imagining my yet to be conceived daughter in another NPHC sorority http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

GFK & TickledPink:

"Hopefully I'll be close enough to them that I don't feel like I NEED to be her "sister" to be connected and close."

Sorry about the confusion but I wasn't refering to a previous post. This is my feeling based on what I've personally seen.

Some girls in my chapter were initially snubbed by thier mom's for months because they pledged a different GLO. That was heartbreaking to witness.
Also I've seen our advisors get so excited when a new legacy is born because "when she grows up mother and daughter will share our 'special bond'". That has always made be think that it would be so sad if you had to be your daughter's "sister" to feel bonded to her.


HARLEMGIRL-
Your post:"SoCal: being a legacy doesn't necessarily mean that ur in. not all orgs have that policy. and those that do can decide whether or not they want it to be known."

My post:"Plus I'd hate for them to feel like they only got accepted because they were a leg. I have sisters that never mentioned that they were legacies of various glos because they didn't want that to happen."

THE KEY WORDS HERE ARE "FEEL LIKE"! As in to BELIEVE BUT NOT KNOW FOR SURE! New members wouldn't really find out until after they were initated what the policy is. Since I'm in a GLO I know that this rarely is actually what happens. And OBVOUSLY I'd know if this was my org's policy or not! Plus I have NEVER said what GLO I am in. So how exactly am I "letting it be known" what the policy is?

SoCalgirl, thanks for clarification.

One of our chapter consultants is having her mom initiated as an alum (whether the mom is going to do jack squat for the sorority, who knows) and she "is so excited because now we'll share that special bond!"

All I could think was, good Lord, woman....you were in her WOMB for 9 months...wasn't that bond enough???

SoCal...I can't believe that a mother would actually snub her OWN DAUGHTER over this!!! How shallow is that? Yes my GLO means a lot to me...but I would never put it above the happiness of my own flesh and blood! You have no idea how sorry I feel for those girls!!!

unfortunately, it happens. when i first crossed, i said that my daughter (when i have one) BETTER pledge DST or don't pledge at all. i've grown up a little since then and i realize that my daughter(s) are no different than anyone else, she'd have to make that decision for herself. if she chooses something other than DST, i will love her and support her emotionally regardless. financially, however, she's on her own UNLESS she is in a SEVERE jam. My money is going to one organization only.