I've learned.....
 

1. Don't spend too much money nor time on his birthday, because you may not get the same favor returned.

2. Spend to much time with him and let him know how available you are, kiss your relationship good-bye.

3. Express how much you love him, kiss your relationship good-bye.

4. Be too nice to him, kiss your relationship good-bye. Newsflash, kindness does not equal weakness.

5. Give him gold, and you'll get back sh*t.

6. Give him sh*t, and you'll get back gold.

7. Put his needs ahead of yours, you might as well go by the doorway lay down.

8. To sum up #1-7, it appears that guys must be masochistic (sp?).

Wow what a depressing thread.

If a guy has to be attached to your ass 24-7-365 get rid of him now!! It not your problem that he is insecure.

I dated a guy for 5 1/2 years (stupid me) and he constantly was calling my house, my work, paging me, etc. He had to know at all times where I was and what I was doing. He was so paranoid that I was out cheating on him. He bugged me about it so much and already had it in his mind that I had cheated on him that I went out and did it and purposely let him catch me. I thought that would be the last straw and it would make it easy to get rid of him, well I was wrong, he wouldn't leave me alone. He would call me crying and begging me not to break up with him!!! Basically I told him to come over my parents house, get all of his shit, go home, and don't call me ever again! That was in July of 1998...in October of 1998 I got an e-mail from him wondering if our vacation apart was going to be over soon...get a clue!

If you see your relationship heading down this road get out of it now!!!

The thing i hated the most was that he said that i wanted to spend too much time with him which i did but then i'd make other plans and then he would decide to call to see what i was doing and wanting to go out and then would get mad when i wouldn't cancel plans with my friends. So that taught me to plan my schedule wisely and to make sure others did too.
another thing, he hated all my friends he said they were dramatic and i was just like them and that i spent too much time on the phone with them and that just made me think of them differently when i was with them. He also didn't like to hang out with them. So that taught me not to date a guy who is too hung up on being "the way he is" to adjust to others!

Trust me Coramoor, I would never be pissed at a guy for not getting me flowers and teddy bears! I hate stuffed animals for one thing. For another ... I don't like it when people say "women/men" do this or that. ONE girl might want flowers and candy, another might want frugality, and it's unfair to expect all women to act the same! We're not clones, just as men aren't!

After all, her boyfriend was basically asking her to subsidize his gifts to her! Who likes that?

What did I learn from my ex? I've only had one ex that I really, really don't like. And from him I learned (and he was 36, so I don't want to hear from anyone that he was too young!):

a) A man who doesn't respect my opinions isn't worth my time. ("You like butterscotch pudding? Trust me, you'll feel different when you're my age!" Yeah, because all people your age agree on everything ...)
b) A man who mocks me for being young (but can't take even one comment to the reverse) isn't worth my time.
c) A man who tells me my feelings aren't valid isn't worth my time.
d) A man who goads me when I'm upset isn't worth my time.
e) A man who breaks up with me over the phone (after disappearing for a few weeks), then tells me I have to right to be upset because "you'll find someone else" (no doubt I will, but I'm upset because I don't want to be rejected, not because I think my life is over!) isn't worth crying over once he's gone.

... no matter how cute he is, how intelligent he is, or how much chemistry we have!