I just wanted to point out that the person who posted was POSTING on behalf of a SISTER who recieved the message. Perhaps if one of our own friends received such a message we too would be pissed enough to write about it (I know I can go on random tants about things that tick me off).

At anyrate I think the person posting is simply trying to bring something to people's attentiong: something that has been overlooked. And as a COMMUNITY we should all understand what is going on and realize that some people are being offended by actions, words or posts.

Sometimes writing John a letter doesn't solve problems. No offense John, gotta love all ya do! You're Superman!
But if, as a community, we are aware of this problem or problems, we can WORK TOGETHER to make sure it doesn't happen. Kinda like that stupid story Hilary Clinton used once!

HM!!!!!!
Hootie:rolleyes:

Ok first off, a random bum walking down the street could come up to you and ask the same question. Deal with it, some people are wierdo's this is a community like any other all be-it online. Next why should I have to solve the problem of some idiot thinking by simply asking the question you were gonna get off and respond. And finally, the 1 or 100 post is you act like you were targeted. You have never posted before just read so it was obviously random. I dont doubt your a lady, but just now that the guys on here that arent asshole shouldnt have this heaped on them! And Bridget or whatever your name is, why dont you leave? Just curious?

SAEguyAnd Bridget or whatever your name is, why dont you leave? Just curious?

Nice touch of humor!

WOW.

1. If you don't like getting "weird Msgs" from ppl on the internet, or this so-called "cyberspace" where millions and millions of ppl have accest to it, do these few steps. Turn off your monitor, then turn off the computer. Turn off your keyboard, scanner, webcam, and printer, or anything else related. Continue by unplugging your power source from the wall, and finally chuck the thing out the window because you shouldn't be using it if you don't understand the the internet is a haven for "weirdos."

On that note, how do you know that the msg you received was from a regular on gc? And how does that msg from that one person, was even a guy? I don't think calling all the guys on gc "assholes" is the way to go about it. Seeing as that was your first post, i could have a name or two for you, but I don't know you, and I'll let you continue to post with ignorance.

You seem somewhat insecure by even trying to relate something like this to a "a girl asking to be date-raped." 1. The conditions aren't there. 2. You can't rape someone over the internet, unless you meet up with one of these "weirdos." 3. You might be somewhat insecure to relate these two things. 4. Like I said before, do the whole turning your computer off, that's the only true way to get rid of the "weirdos."
Now, how about you go and turn down your bed and take a nap!

All I know is that this isn't the first time I've heard something like this from a GC'er. However, most people will go directly to John or a trusted confidante and ask what to do. Maybe HurlyGurly didn't know the process. ??? And I can understand why she would be angry if a friend/sister was upset....I know I would be!

I've heard from random women on this board about unsettling IM's they've received as a result of posting their AIM ID on their profile and rude PM's as well (oh, and I'm not even counting the KEVIN/Miami situation). Those of you who haven't received an upsetting email - count your lucky stars - but try not to turn your nose up and make judgements on those who have had a bad experience.

Please note that I throughly agree that if someone is repeatedly bugging you, you should block them! However, that doesn't alleviate the problem of having to read the first upsetting IM, PM, etc.

Oh, and SAE guy - The likelyhood of some random bum off the street asking me if I do anal is virtually non-existent. The internet allows for perceived anonymity, therefore the number of psycho freaks that like to contact women and be creepy is incredibly high.

And regarding spelling, I don't mean to be bitchy, but James and Killarney Rose both had misspellings in their posts, so does this mean that I should question their credibility?? :rolleyes: Let's try to be reasonable here. If someone can't spell more than 75% of their post, then yes...we have a problem here but other than that....

and like i said before, a pm or im from a random guy like that doesn't represent every guy or "asshole" on gc. I turn my judgements on ppl that make ignorant comments like that. That's how stereotypes and prejudice form. LOL, When one does it, they all do it?!? Now, I know i can be a D#(k at times on gc, but to be honest, I do it all in fun, but in the same sense, i don't sit there iming random girls from gc asking them if they do anal?!?! I talk to a select few ppl on gc, and I like it like that. Not everyone on gc is a weirdo, adn let's not forget that there are many ppl that just visit the boards as guests, obtaining info is fairly easy.

Damasa - I don't think I've ever said anything to imply that I think every guy on GC is a jerk/freak/A*hole. If I thought every guy on this board was a psycho, I can guarantee that I wouldn't be here - that's pretty clear. Come to think of it, I don't think anyone has ever said that all GC guys are creeps! In fact, I've met some very cool people on this board - both men and women. The reason I posted was to say that I don't think the creepy messages are as seldom an occurrence as some people here seem to think. It's like - just because it's never happened to them, they don't believe what others are saying, and I think that's pretty crappy. That's the same problem I had with a lot of people when the Kevin thing was happening. It was unbelievable. I can say, with few exceptions, that the men who are the problems are NOT the GC regulars that we all know. From what I know, it's usually someone random who comes to this site, gets information, and then IM's people. I definitely think people should be more careful with their information - posting pictures, schools, emails, chapter names, etc. - unfortunately if that info gets in the wrong hands, bad bad things can happen. Just my 2 cents...

ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS BACK OFF~ :mad:
SO WHAT IF THIS PERSON MADE A PSUEDO NAME TO DIVULDGE SOME HARSH FEELINGS HE OR SHE HAS ABOUT A PM? WOULD ANY OF YOUR ATTITUDES BE DIFFERENT IF IT WERE, FOR EXAMPLE, ME WHO HAD POSTED AND WAS VERY UPSET? I CONSIDER MYSELF A FAIRLY REASONABLE GIRL BUT WHAT IF SOMEONE HAD SAID SOMETHING RUDE LIKE THAT TO ME AND I POSTED IT? WOULD YOU ALL BE JUMPING DOWN MY THOAT?

I THINK INSTEAD OF WORRYING OURSELVES ABOUT THE IDENTITY OF POSTERS AND HOW MANY POSTS AND WHAT WORDS THEY USE AND WHO THEY CALL NAMES...WE SHOULD LOOK AT THE REAL ISSUE.

I'M NOT SINGLING ANYONE OUT ON HERE BECAUSE WE'RE ALL TO BLAME FOR (AS BRIDGET SAID) AUTOMATICALLY THROWING ACCUSATIONS AT PEOPLE OF WHO THEY ARE AND WHAT THEIR MOTIVES ARE.

I SUPPOSE WE HAVE A FEW RESIDENT PSYCHOS TO BLAME FOR OUR ATTITUDES, BUT I THINK IN THE PAST WE'VE ALL TAKEN OUR INSULTS WITH A GRAIN OF SALT AND GOTTEN PAST IT.

SO INSTEAD OF BEING SO PISSED BECAUSE SOMEONE SAID "THE MEN OF GC" PERHAPS WE SHOULD REMEMBER THAT YES, THIS IS CYBERWORLD, AND NO, YOU CANNOT BE TOO SURE OF WHO IS A GOOD OR BAD PERSON.

HELL, I'VE BEEN CATEGORIZED BY A FEW RESIDENT PSYCHOS AS A HATER AND OCCULT MEMBER AND YOU DON'T SEE ME BITCHING ABOUT IT...INSTEAD I CONFRONT THE TOPIC INSTEAD OF TAKING SUCH HIGH OFFENSE!

HOOTIE

I honestly was not offended by a single word of HurlyGurly. What
did she say or what word did she use that hasn't been posted on this board before? Somehow, I believe she is using a different ID or posting for someone we all may know. She seems just sick and tired of it. Rather than sign a name (that COULD have a sorority symbol attatched) she chose anonymity. On the OTHER hand, Damasa made a a LOT of sense in his first post.
BUT-It's just one of those things that you can't know how it feels until it happens to you.

There are nuts ALL over the place-there are people who have no idea of propriety. All you can do is make sure you have protected you identity(as best you can) and DO NOT RESPOND!

I for one would like to know how secure GC really is and who(if ANYONE) has our information. For some reason, a lot of people feel more secure thinking no human has access to their info. I'm more or less in that crowd.

I cannot believe the flaming that has started over this!!!!! I am the person that received the unsolicited, obnoxious PM asking if I have ever tried anal!!!!!!!!!!! I may have been honest and frank in some of the sexual discussions we have had on here (as have a lot of others) but I don't think that gives anyone a right to take liberties with me. I can also tell you all that the person who started this thread is a highly respectable, long-time GCer who has gotten a new id due to just this kind of thing.

We can all be open and honest in our group discussions and still have boundaries. Maybe we women need to all state plainly what our boundaries are. I'll start-----hey guys.....I have no problem talking about things in the forums....but I'm not interested in one-on-one chats and I certainly don't need rude PMs from people I don't know asking me personal questions.

What I don't get is all the hostility aimed at the people who complain about the harrassers....if anyone is feeling insulted that they aren't receiving this kind of attention....DON'T. Be glad!!!!!Just don't think that just because it isn't happening to you that it isn't happening to someone else. I myself have recieved undesirable contacts from 4 different people (well as far as I know it is 4 different people) and I am not the only one. So please, be tolerant.

By the way, Tracy, I have to say I am surprised at you and a little disappointed. Your post didn't even sound like you. I think you know that of all people on here I am pretty "savvy"......and to be honest until you pointed it out I had NO clue what the name meant. Didn't even think about it. I didn't realize we had to try and decode names before reading pm's to determine if they are freaks or not. NOW it makes sense.....6uldv8 equals sexualdeviant. How nice.

Telling the admins is all well and good but there is only so much they can do. How many people have we had banned who just keep coming back under other names????

ok, i didnt want to reply to this - but what is a 6ulvd8? ive tried sounding it out but im clueless.

:)

I must add....I am surprised that the guys aren't getting a lottle more po'd over the freakers too. Sticking up for your own is one thing but do you guys realize that the jerks are spoiling things for all of you? It's going to get to the point where some of us don't trust any of you because we just don't know who is ok and who isn't. Perhaps if you guys stuck up for your female friends a little more instead of just suggesting that if we don't like it we get out, it would help the situation instead of making it worse.

Erika, I was being highly sarcastic about never getting a nasty PM - believe me if I want to see gross emails all I have to do is ask my friend to copy me in on some of the ones her ex has sent her. Ewww, I have to take a bath just thinking about it.

As to Hurlygurly, whoever she is, old new or what the heck ever, the thing that I found not cool was her using phraseology like implying that "the guys" of the board need to do something about over-the-top PM's. That is male-female polarizing, and it is disgusting. So, I guess James, damasa, KABM, are all going to go out with torches and bloodhounds looking for 6uldv8?? (Actually, that might be pretty cool.) We don't need a battle of the sexes on here, especially with the "I am an empowered woman" thinking one minute, and "boo hoo guys, please help me" the next. Help yourself - don't look to the guys to do it. It is not an issue of guys sticking up for guys - it's an issue of the guys really not being able to do a damned thing about it, unless it is the guy down the hall posting and they can break his hands.

Once again, if there is a problem with any user on this board, REPORT IT TO A MODERATOR. Erika, I'm sorry if you were upset, but I don't know what else to tell you to do.

Sorry Erika. But what can we do? If we threaten someone online then we are in the same trouble posibly (legal wise) as the people that threatened/offeneded you.