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I take what people say as gospel. Why should I have doubted her? That's what you are asking us to do. And if she had asked me that question in person, my response would have been the same...call the Greek Life office. Or if I felt particularly snarky, I would respond with "what all have you done to find out?"

I'm also the person who answers questions such as "can you.....?" with "yes, I can" - period - knowing full well that the person "thinks" he is asking me to "do" something, which he actually isn't. I can be a stickler about those things...my daddy was and it has rubbed off on me....just ask my son!

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Originally Posted by Hartofsec (Post 2300993)

I'm actually kind of sorry to hear that -- especially after giving you credit for an appropriate and polite response.

Maybe she meant she couldn't find any info online (which is true, considering the links provided so far) -- or maybe she didn't know she should call the Greek Life Office. Maybe she was hoping that someone with experience at UT would respond. Maybe she didn't know that she should exhaust all possible avenues of information before asking a question on this forum. Maybe she didn't know she should word her question in a different way in order to avoid eliciting snark. Or maybe she didn't know her question would be interpreted quite so literally ("ANY ANYWHERE").

MAYBE we should give her the benefit of the doubt, since she is young and obviously new to this process, instead of assuming that she "lied" so others would "do her work for her."

Perhaps this is part of the difference in perception/interpretation -- those of you who are not parents may interpret and treat questions differently than some of us who are parents -- especially those of us who have experienced a daughter participating in recruitment.

Surely you wouldn't treat a question from a PNM in real life with snark, a lecture, or an insinuation that she is lazy? So why is it okay in this forum?

Please don't use the "I'm a parent" response. The only thing being a parent qualifies you for is....raising children. That can be debatable for some people who have children too. Truthfully, if a PNM comes and asks a question like that, many of us would ask her what she looked up on her own. It's an honest response with no snark intended. Expecting her to contact the Greek Life office isn't exactly a bad suggestion. Stop being so easily offended by some people on here who chose to respond that way. Some of us gave the OP some advice and hopefully she takes it.

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Originally Posted by als463 (Post 2300995)

Please don't use the "I'm a parent" response. The only thing being a parent qualifies you for is....raising children.

FWIW, surprisingly, being a parent to teens and young adults actually does give one insight into and experience with teens and young adults. And being the parent to a daughter who is entering the recruitment process (especially a competitive recruitment) is a different perspective from that gained as a PNM oneself.

Thankfully, as far as I know, my daughter's experiences with other alums and information were snark-free. And I appreciate that. :)

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Originally Posted by Just interested (Post 2300992)

To the OP,
I have been involved on different levels with a chapter at UT for almost 30 years. The Greek Life office may or may not know which groups will be taking members in the Spring. It is usually done under the radar unless a chapter is way under total and practices COB. Some chapters will take a few but frankly these girls are handpicked from girls they already know and are hanging out with. My recommendation to you would be to go through formal in the Fall unless you already have an inside track and are friends with members. Spend the Spring getting to know people, keeping your grades high and involving yourself with other organizations on campus where you are likely to make connections. And by all means contact Greek Life before you leave for Winter Break to get you name on a list if there is one.

^Didn't want this to go unnoticed in the course of this thread -- finally some useful info from someone with experience at UT.

The addendum to that could be, there might be a chapter or two holding official informal rush parties. Definitely take a look at those chapters. If you find a match, GREAT. You get to start on your sisterhood sooner and avoid the heartache of formal. If you don't find your match, then continue with her suggestions and go through formal next fall.