What is a CCD?

And I hope the part in bold was intended to be sarcasm.

You came here looking for advice. We told you your next steps. You ignored us and said you were going to one of the chapter's recruitment parties. We told you that you shouldn't go. You said you were going anyway.

You said your chapter president is newly appointed, which means she still knows very little about being president, and probably knows nothing about reinstatements and how they're handled (assuming your sorority even allows them).

Just contact headquarters and go from there. All of the knowledgeable, well-experienced NPC members on this site are going to tell you the same thing.

Wow, you are setting yourself up for more heartache. There is a 0.00000001% chance that you will be able to rejoin your sorority. Posting on GC with that organization in your name when you relinquished your letters is inappropriate as is crashing their recruitment parties. You ARE NOT eligible to be recruited. I'm sure you do feel a hole in your heart. It's called regret. Unfortunately, there aren't always ways to fix things you regret. Now is the time for you to sit back and see what, if anything, the organization has to offer you. It is not the time to force yourself. What can you do? Be a friend to those sisters you left behind. Just because you aren't a member doesn't mean you can't still be friends.

OP (dz.lys), this breakdown may be helpful to you:

1. If the recruitment event is for a local sorority (and not for either DZ or an NPC group), then local Panhellenic rules control and you could seek membership in the local.

2. If instead you are seeking to be reinstated in DZ, eligibility for reinstatement is determined at the International HQ level. If HQ determines that you are eligible, it will tell you if it is as an alumna or as a collegian. ONLY if you are eligible as a collegian, does the collegiate chapter have a say on the matter.

3. No, not all NPC groups are the same on reinstatement policy. DZ's policy may be very different from that for other NPC groups. Only DZ's policy governs or matters. This is why everyone is advising you to contact DZ International HQ.

4. The one unanimous position for all of the NPC groups is that once you are initiated into one NPC group, you may never join a different NPC group. Local, yes; NPC, no.

Not looking for any fight here, but from personal experience: persons who are deaf do not always understand things as we in the hearing world understand them, even when those things are carefully explained. They sometimes become stubborn in wanting their own way.

IMO the OP was posting/reacting as some deaf persons I know react, with emotion and heart and not head.